If you’re living together but have different health goals and priorities, how do you navigate it?
That’s one of the most common questions I get about my relationships. My boyfriend and I are now living together but we have very different lifestyles and personalities. Though we are in no way relationship experts, today we’re answering your questions about love, food, weight, personality differences and much more.
Curious about what questions we answer on the episode? Here are a few of them. If you have questions we didn’t answer, shoot me a message on Instagram or comment in the show notes and we’ll absolutely answer them! The episode got kind of long so we didn’t get to all that were submitted but there are more answers to more questions below!
Are you planning to get married? We are planning to rennovate our house. That’s our only plan. Haha.
Do you want kids? I texted him this question and this is his exact response: “We seem pretty fluid on that one.” I love the idea of children. I don’t love the idea of the responsibility. We don’t have immediate plans for kids but we aren’t against it either. He has a daughter, I should add. I’m answering this as to whether or not we want to have kids together.
What does he do for work? A little bit of everything. He’s a real estate agent, a drone pilot and works for a local appliance company. He’s also resident handyman around the house.
What are your love languages? He hasn’t read the book. He says his love language is English. Mine are physical touch and words of affirmation.
Does he get to call you Betsy? Nope, “Betsy” is what my family calls me – only my family. He usually calls me “Bunny” or “babe”. He introduces me as “Elizabeth” and doesn’t call me Betsy.
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Most of my clients set goals for themselves. Most of them are going about it the wrong way.
Why do you think so many people who set a goal of weight loss end up regaining the weight? Why do so many people who get out of debt shortly reaccumulate it?
My friends, as you set goals for yourself, I want you to keep in mind that there is a massive difference between external goals and internal targets.
In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about a different way to set goals and go about achieving them in a way that ensures you get what you want most! We’re taking a deep dive into the idea that the goal is more about feeling than doing. I’m going to help you understand what it means for the GOAL to be the FEELING you’re after and how to prioritize the way you want to BE over the things you ought to DO.
This simple shift in the way you set goals and the way you think about goals will improve your consistency and make sure you don’t waste precious time and energy pursuing an external target when your real goal is an internal shift.
What choices, actions or thoughts contribute to how you do want to feel?
What choices, actions or thoughts contribute to how you don’t want to feel?
What can you do about it today?
What’s the difference between the things you want to do and the way you want to be?
What can you do about it today?
When you’re in a moment of struggle or negative emotion: what feeling are you looking to obtain?
How can you create that?
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Change feels hard. I get it. Often, it feels hard because we’re going about it the wrong way.
Our tendency is to focus on changing our actions and our choices. What this approach overlooks is the simple fact that our thoughts drive our choices.
Conscious or subsconscious, a series of thoughts predede our choices and talk us into or out of whatever decision we make.
If you don’t change your thoughts, it will continue to be mighty hard to change your choices.
Of course that begs the question: HOW?
Most of us feel like our thoughts arise so quickly & automatically that they’re nearly impossible to change. It sounds nice in theory “just think differently!” but how do we turn that into a daily practice?
That is the entire focus of today’s practical episode with modern mindfulness expert and host of the Mind Love podcast, Melissa Monte. Don’t miss this one!
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In October 2019, our relationship with Thrive Market changed. They decided to put their marketing dollars in avenues outside of podcasting but we still think they’re a good choice if you’re looking to save money on health & personal care products.
For years, I’ve been a huge fan of journaling. Recently, I’ve made a shift in the way I journal that has completely changed the game. It’s made me happier, more present, more confident and more productive. A few of my Masters Club members have begun journaling this way, too, and today you’ll hear from both of us.
How are we journaling? What does it look like? How did we start?
One of the reasons people struggle to change is that they aren’t paying attention. I can relate to that!
At 350+ pounds, living paycheck to paycheck, I didn’t want to pay attention.
I didn’t want to see my body.
I didn’t want to acknowledge my food choices.
I didn’t want to acknowledge my inconsistency
I didn’t want to look too closely at anything – my bank account, how much debt I had, the state of my marriage, what I looked like naked.
None of it. And, not suprisingly, nothing good was happening.
When we don’t pay attention, we drift.
We never drift someplace amazing.
I am certain this type of journaling will help you create change. It’s not about accountability, it’s about action.
I think it’s so powerful that I’m going to create an identity journal for the next 12 Weeks to Transformation! You can get on the wait list here.
Random side note: In today’s episode I mentioned that you can download my Hormones & Fat Loss Guide for free. Click here to get your copy!
Today we’re talking about two different but very deceptive thought patterns that keep people from creating change in their lives.
One is the mindset of “I know”, where you dismiss information, strategies and tools you’re already familiar with instead of grabbing the opportunity presented by the reminder to take action on them. It really doesn’t matter if you “you know”, what matters is whether or not you’re doing those things.
The second is the mindset of “I don’t know” – a pattern of letting yourself off the hook and letting uncertainty be a stopping point. It should be a starting point.
If there is a gap between when you know and what you do, this episode is one you can’t miss!
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In October 2019, our relationship with Thrive Market changed. They decided to put their marketing dollars in avenues outside of podcasting but we still think they’re a good choice if you’re looking to save money on health & personal care products.
