Is it possible that you’re actually telling rational lies?
Just because it’s your answer doesn’t mean it’s the truth.
In today’s episode, we’re looking at rational lies, times when we rationalize and how to break the patterns that keep us from living the lives we want.
First we make our stories, then our stories make us.
We are story tellers. You are a master story teller. Whether you’re conscious of it or not, you make about stories about everything that happens around you, about every choice you make, every single day.
When I say “stories” that DOESN’T mean you made something up.
Your story is the meaning you attach to your experiences.
Your story can take you to new heights or it can overwhelm you and lead to you to isolate yourself and feel defeated.
In today’s episode, we’re taking a look at the stories you tell yourself and how you can stand on the shoulders of your story and allow it to take you to new heights!
Today’s episode features pieces of a powerful conversation I had with story-expert Marlo Ellis – founder and visionary behind The Uncommon Woman.
I used to think in terms of what I didn’t want. I didn’t want to be so overweight. I didn’t want to overeat so frequently. I didn’t want to feel so out of control. I didn’t want to be unhappy, lonely or isolated. I didn’t want to have so much debt. You get the picture.
If I had to choose a sound effect to represent how I felt at that point in my life, it would have been a groan.
At least once a day, someone asks me how much weight I’ve lost or how much debt I paid off. Totally fair questions and I’m happy to answer them (except I don’t own a scale and don’t worry about my present body weight.)
Here’s the thing though – what I’ve gained is so much more interesting.
I’ve gained so much more energy.
I’ve gained happiness.
I’ve gained health.
I’ve gained freedom.
Mental clarity.
Certainty.
Confidence.
Peace.
Opportunity.
This shift from “less” to “more” is what we’re diving into today. It’s not just a more peaceful perspective, we’ll talk about why it’s a more effective one, too!
I’ve been thinking a lot about the life & business I want to create in 2019. I shared a lot of those details in episode 549 of the podcast. I missed out on a LOT of my life. There are decades, relationships and experiences that I can’t get back. In saying “yes” to food, saying “no” to happiness and relationships, I destroyed a lot of relationships and experiences. I don’t want to live that way naymore. In fact, I refuse to live that way.
But here’s the very important thing: it’s not just about physical health. Often, that gets all the priority. What we eat. Our body composition. Our exercise routine.
Today we are talking about another very, very, very important component and the shift I’m making in my own life.
I used to use stress, pressure, chaos and crisis as reasons to not take care of myself. As soon as life got hard, I’d stop trying. I’d stop making good food choices, I’d stop going to the gym, I’d stop being financially responsible. I’d check out.
I’ll be the first to admit that it’s not always easy to do the right things when it feels like you’re in crisis mode, but there are a few things I knew for sure:
Take care of yourself makes the chaos dramatically more manageable
Not taking care of yourself makes it dramatically more difficult to manage
It is possible to make great choices when life is hard
It is worth it
Last week was straight CHAOS for me. I closed on a new property and there were innumerable hoops to jump through at the last minute. I moved into it. I moved out of my tiny house the same day. My boyfriend moved in with me. A new tenant moved into the tiny house. My 98-year-old grandmother was in the hospital and required surgery. My first book launched. The 12 WT launched. Plus, I had my normal workload, which is quite heavy to begin with.
I was determined to not only get through the week, but to enjoy it and to take impeccable care of myself through it all. In today’s podcast, I’m sharing my own strategies for navigating chaos without crisis and without putting self-care on the back burner.
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