Every month I study a new book with my Primal Potential Masters Club. As an avid reader, it’s one of my favorite things. I don’t usually share the books we read together outside of our group, but there are so many awesome tactics in this one I just can’t help myself!
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This month we are reading Micro-Resilience. I read it before sharing it with the group and I just finished reading it for a second time through.
One of the things that really stood out to me as I finished up this morning was:
Complain & the whole world complains with you.
It’s so true, right?
Think about this interaction that probably seems alarmingly familiar:
“How are you?”
“So busy, you?”
“Same. Surviving!“
Of course that’s a benign scenario but still demonstrates – complain and the world complains with you.
What about when you complain about a co-worker or a boss? Ever experienced the pile on effect?
“He’s impossible. He drives me crazy!”
“Me too! You won’t believe what he did the other day…“
Here’s one of many problems with these scenarios: they totally drain your energy.
They focus your attention on what is wrong and when you’re focused on what is wrong, you see more of that & less of what is right or positive.
The great news is that the reverse is true.
When we focus on what is right, what is possible and what is positive, most people will respond in kind.
I want to emphasize this goes beyond the moral pursuit of being a positive person.
Focusing on the positive improves your mood. You make better choices when you’re in a better mood.
Focusing on what is right helps you see opportunities instead of problems. It helps you find creative solutions instead of perseverating on obstacles.
Choosing to be positive increases your energy, reduces stress hormones, lowers appetite and contributes to mood stability.