678: Take Responsibility

Nov 7, 2019

You need to take responsibility for your choices, your attitude, your goals and your progress. It’s long past time you stop blaming your circumstances! It’s time to take full responsibility, no matter what your situation.

In today’s episode, I passionately call for you to take full responsibility. It’s always easier to blame someone else or on the fact you don’t have enough time, money or energy. There’s always an excuse, and they’re often valid and easy to rationalize. It does not matter! You need to take full responsibility if you wish to lead the life you desire. In today’s episode, I share how you can do this — starting today.

I’ve written an article that accompanies this, where I dive deeper into the importance of taking full responsibility for your life and goals. Whether you choose to read, listen or both, make today the day you draw a line in the sand and make huge progress.


  1. How important it is for you to take full responsibility of your goals, your time and your life.
  2. That there will always be a valid excuse for what you can’t do, but how it does not matter because it remains within your control (and it remains YOUR choice).
  3. How I was inspired to record today’s episode after a conversation with Sarah, and how we both spotted a common pattern among members of the 12 Weeks to Transformation.
  4. That you can still make GREAT choices no matter what your situation is (and no matter how little time, money or energy you have).
  5. What the first step to taking full responsibility looks like (and how you can do this right now — starting today!)
  6. What life looks on the other side of all this, and the incredible impact it has on your health, mindset and relationships.
  7. How taking full responsibility has no boundaries (you choose to do this with your work, family life, health and everything else that is part of YOUR life)


I looked at Sarah and said, “isn’t it amazing how few people take full responsibility for their lives and are so quick to blame others?”

Sarah helps me manage the 12 Weeks to Transformation, ensuring everything runs smoothly and that each member gets the accountability and action they deserve. She updated me on various members, as she does each week.

Nobody blatantly blamed someone else, but a common pattern I spotted was that everyone had a reason for why they couldn’t watch a video, complete an action, make progress this week, and so on…

It dawned on me: hardly anyone takes full responsibility for their life.

I didn’t use to. For a long time, I would blame someone else or my situation.
I always had a reason why I couldn’t achieve what I wanted to:

  • Not enough time.
  • Not enough money at the moment.
  • My job is too exhausting.
  • My partner doesn’t support me.
  • Hormones…

I was able to validate all these excuses, too. The truth was, I didn’t have enough time or money. My job did exhaust me. My personal life would sometimes get in the way of my personal growth and diet.

I had a valid reason to blame my situation.
Most people do. Life is often crazy, so there’s always an excuse.

But so what?
Does it really matter?

Whatever your situation, your life remains YOUR life.

It’s Time to Take Full Responsibility No Matter What!

It’s always easier to blame someone or something else. It’s comfortable. So long as you have a reason why you can’t, you feel justified staying within your comfort zone.

It’s safe.
It’s comfortable.

But you’re not here to live a comfortable life. You’re here to live a FULL, meaningful one. You only get one, after all. Do you really want to arrive on your deathbed with regrets? Looking back at all the things you would have liked to do, but didn’t because you couldn’t find the time, money or energy?

The bottom line is, you will always have a valid excuse as to why you can’t. It’s doesn’t matter. You cannot let this prevent you from taking full responsibility for your life, your actions and your choices.

Taking full responsibility is a choice. It’s one you have always had and always will.
And it’s one you have right now (no matter what your current situation is).

Nobody Else Can Build The Life You Want But You!

I recorded the episode that inspired this article on a whim. I intended to record a science-based episode, but couldn’t get this idea of taking full responsibility out of my head.

I see it holding so many people back.
Not just those inside the 12 Weeks to Transformation

  • But listeners who send me emails…
  • Friends and family members I speak to…
  • People I see online, sharing messages on social media…

They validate why they can’t.
Instead of finding a reason why they can.

Life isn’t easy. There will always be “something” that stands in your way. There is never the perfect time, perfect situation or a period where the stars align. If that’s what you’re waiting for, you’ll wait forever.

… until one day you lay on that deathbed and have nothing but your past to look back on.

This is your life. It’s yours to take full responsibility for and do what you want to do and what you need to. Nobody else will give you the life you desire. They’re all busy living their own lives.

All you can do is focus on yours. Once you do, you won’t only serve YOU but those around you, too.

An aspect of the stoic philosophy I love surrounds the notion that how you lead yourself is more important than how you lead others.

  • If you want to be the best parent you can be, focus on YOU!
  • If you want to be the best leader at work, focus on YOU!
  • If you want to be the best partner you can, focus on YOU!

Take full responsibility of your life. Be there for others,  but don’t sacrifice what you need for their cause. It leads to resentment and frustration and does nothing but fuel those excuses as to why you can’t.

You can, but you never will until you take full responsibility.

How To Take Full Responsibility (no matter what your situation is)

I talk about this in greater detail in the episode that accompanies this article. I encourage you to listen to it in full, because not only do I share some tactical advice that will help you take action TODAY… but I also share a few stories, examples and anecdotes.

Listen to the latest episode of the Primal Potential podcast here ⇒ 

I’ll keep things simple with this article. If you want to take full responsibility of your life:

  1. Be conscious of when you’re not taking full responsibility
  2. Practice the aft of taking FULL RESPONSIBILITY!

That’s it. Simple, I know.
But this doesn’t have to be hard.

I talk about this more in the episode, but it comes down to YOU being aware when you’re blaming someone else or the situation you’re in. If you find yourself coming up with reasons why you can’t, you are choosing NOT to take full responsibility.

It’s a sign to stop and step back, and think about what taking full responsibility looks like.

It’s a practice.
It’s a repetition.

The more you do this, the easier it gets. Bit-by-bit you regain control of your goals, feelings, emotions, and life overall. You take control of those inner conversations and the ones you have with others.

You feel calmer and at peace.
You find it easier to let go.

You realize it is a choice, which gives you all you need to build the life you deserve.
You only get one. The sooner you take full responsibility for it the sooner you get to live it fully and freely.

Thanks for reading this today. Please listen to the podcast that accompanies this article in full, as I passionately talk about why taking full responsibility for your life is so important.

I didn’t intend to record this but felt compelled to.
Not taking full responsibility held me back for so long.
I see it negatively affect other people each day, and I want it to stop.

It is a choice, and it’s one you can make (right now).

In the episode, I talk in greater depth about how you can, as well as give you a few practical tips on what I did and still do (click here to listen to the episode in full)

Thanks again for listening and reading. If you have any questions about this, please add them in the comments below. And to subscribe to the podcast and connect with me on social media, follow the links below.


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