Drama Is Emotional Waste

by | Sep 28, 2017 | Blog

I’ve been doing a lot of reading & researching lately as I get prepared for ASCEND and I came across a quote from Cy Wakeman that totally resonated with me. She says,

Drama is emotional waste.

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Now, you might be thinking that you’re not dramatic. I think most people feel that way, at least most of the time.

But I think we’d benefit from expanding the way we define drama. Think about drama as any type of arguing with reality.

This can be complaining, worrying, thinking about how things should be different or how things used to be or fixating on the past.

Anytime we’re arguing with reality – anytime we’re focusing on anything other than what we have the power to do now – we are creating drama.

That emotional waste distracts us, exhausts us and keeps us from creating change in our lives.

I caught myself creating drama while driving home this morning. I had just left a doctor appointment and I was thinking about something someone did many months ago. In my head, I was talking through my frustration. Why did they do it? What does it mean? How could I have changed it?

And then I thought: this is the essence of emotional waste.

It was months ago. It’s over. I’m keeping it alive with my thoughts & attention.

I’m creating suffering by how I’m choosing to direct my thoughts & attention.

Once I noticed it I said to myself: I don’t want to suffer. I won’t create trouble in my life, especially about something that is behind me. I’m not looking there because I’m not going that way.


When you catch yourself in any form of drama – wishing, complaining or negativity – ask yourself:

What do I have the power to change right now?

How can I improve my attitude?

What step can I take towards my goal?

What needs to be done and how will I start?

Because of my early morning doctor appointment and subsequent work schedule, I couldn’t get to the gym today. Fortunately, I was able to get in a good workout at home.

I started with a 10 minute EMOM of 10 cal airdyne sprints and followed it up with 100 kettlebell swings for time and a long walk.

Though I really prefer structured workouts at the gym, it’s nice to remember that I can always get a workout in at home!

On the food front:

I got up at 4am today to make sure I could get done what I needed to before my 7am doctor appointment.

Between 4am and 10am I had 2 bottles of Picnik Butter Coffee (cappucino flavor – the only one I drink because the others have more sugar). Gotta say that I’m pretty pumped to be getting this on the cheap…

It’s $35.94 on Picnik’s site but only $23.99 through Thrive Market! Dude. That’s nuts!

Around 10am I made my cabbage salad breakfast bowl for brunch. Tried and true today – cabbage, eggs, bacon, walnuts & Primal Kitchen Chipotle Lime Mayo. Yum!

**Edited** I ended up going to dinner with my aunt & grandmother last night to celebrate my grandma’s birthday. I stayed away from the alcohol & the cake but thoroughly enjoyed a petit filet & side of broccoli!

Easy does it!

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