3-Day Detox

I recently shared that I’m doing a 3-day detox and so many of you asked me for the details that I figured it would be wise to put it here on the blog so you can easily find it whenever you’re interested. There are a million ways to detox, as many things to detox from and countless detox plans and programs. If you know me at all, it won’t surprise you that I detox my own way based on my goals, needs and lifestyle (and I think you should, too).

Yes, I could follow someone else’s rules or program, but that’s not what I’m doing. One of the reasons I’m making up my own rules is because my circumstances are unique to me in the same way that yours are unique to you. For example, I’m currently breastfeeding (and pumping), I’m a couple months postpartum and I’m anemic. While I do have a goal of weight loss, I also need to keep my milk supply up. On top of that, I have no interest in being miserable, cranky or having no energy for 3 hours, never mind 3 days!

Why A 3 Day Detox?

I don’t know about you, but I love to challenge myself. I like to mix it up and gain a little momentum. This is one way to do it and one of my reasons. I like sprinkling in fasts or detoxes, but I can’t fast right now (for the above stated reasons).

I think it’s incredibly important to detox. It’s valuable to detox from media, from screens, from alcohol, complaining, toxins, sugar and so many things. This particular detox is a nutrition detox, designed to jump start weight loss, reduce cravings, increase energy, eliminate toxins and help my body heal by reducing inflammation.

As silly as it might sound, my breast pump, coffee maker and washing machine prompted me to do this detox. Does anyone else have one of those fancy coffee makers that prompts you to run a cleaning cycle? While I’m the first to dismiss reminders to update my phone or computer, I rarely dismiss the cleaning prompts from my coffee maker. Why? Because I hate the idea of build-up from the machine getting into my morning cup of coffee. I hate the idea of mold or grime accumulating inside the machine. So, I run the cleaning cycle. I feel the same way about my breast pump. I’m vigilant about cleaning the parts thoroughly and constantly. Why? Because build-up accumulates and will absolutely get into the milk! No, thank you! And I’m sure you have all noticed how your washing machine gets kind of nasty if you don’t clean it, right?

Well, that illustrates why I think the occasional detox is important! You’d better believe that toxins accumulate in our tissues and that this accumulation impacts how we function! Not only does it lead to things like low energy and brain fog, it impairs fat loss, creates hormonal imbalance and drives inflammation/disease.

Nutritional detoxes are as important as flossing our teeth – maybe even more!

What’s My 3 Day Detox?

You can detox however you’d like. You can detox the way I am, you can fast, you can follow someone else’s detox (make sure they’re trustworthy!) or you can make up your own! I’m happy to share mine, with the caveat that I made up the guidelines based on my goals, needs and priorities. A big factor in how I’ll detox is the fact that I’m a very simple girl and I don’t like things that are complex or confusion. Here are the guidelines:

  • 1 gallon of water daily (plain water)
  • Meat, veggies and fruit only (if it’s not in one of those categories, I don’t eat it)
  • Reboot supplement pack (this is only about $15 with the code BENTON)

You might be thinking, “What about coffee?” Is coffee meat? Is coffee a vegetable? Is it a fruit? You can answer for yourself. I know some of you are convincing yourself that coffee berries make coffee a fruit. Your detox, your rules!

What Will I Eat?

I’ll be posting daily in the Primal Potential FB group so you can check out the details there, but here’s a sample day:

AM: leftover chicken thighs + 1 medium apple

Lunch: Salad from Chipotle Mexican grill (lettuce, steak, pico, fajita veggies, guacamole)

Dinner: Steak and broccoli

Snacks: Blueberries, cucumbers, tomatoes

Do You Have to Take Reboot?

It’s your detox. You make your rules. I think about it like this: if I run my dishwasher without detergent, are the dishes clean? Well, they’re cleaner than they were before I ran it, but they aren’t as clean as they would be if I had used detergent. You can detox without supplements that support detoxification and elimination. However, your detox probably won’t be as effective as it would have been if you included them. The way I see it, it’s a really effective 3-day product pack specifically for detoxification and it’s really affordable, so it’s worth it to me. You get to do your detox your way!

Remember to drink a lot of water! That’s going to help flush out any toxins! Happy detoxing!

 

Postpartum Weight Loss

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As crazy as it sounds, I’ve had 4 babies in less than 3 years. It’s even crazier when you consider that includes 3 c-sections, twins born over 3 months premature, months in the NICU and the unexpected death of our daughter Dagny at just 14 days old. It’s been a whirlwind, to say the least! The twins, though still in the NICU, are now a couple months old and I’m ready to focus on postpartum weight loss.

Because my kiddos were born so close together, I didn’t lose all my baby weight from my first pregnancy before getting pregnant with my son less than 6 months later. I didn’t lose all the weight from those two pregnancies before getting pregnant with twins, either!

Dagny – 2020

Roman – 2021

Piper & Charlie – 2022

I’ve noticed a lot of shame and pressure in conversations about postpartum weight loss, and while I certainly have moments of not loving how my body looks, I’m determined to not choose the perspectives of pressure or panic. As I see it, we can want to change something while remaining calm, positive and relaxed in the pursuit. Plus, with a 16 month old at home and the twins in the NICU two hours away, I’m not opting into additional stress.

How I’m Approaching Postpartum Weight Loss

As is the case for many moms, postpartum weight loss isn’t as straight forward as weight loss in other seasons of life, because I have to factor in my milk supply. With two babies to feed, I can’t have that dropping down for the sake of weight loss. Plus, I’m recovering from a c-section which factors into my workout choices and I’m trying to overcome anemia from significant blood loss before the twins were born.

Most importantly, I only want weight loss I can sustain. For me, that means only adopting nutrition strategies that I’m willing (and wanting) to sustain for life. I’m not working hard for results that I can’t or won’t maintain – that’s the worst, in my opinion!

There are a few additional factors I think it’s important to share as they impact my food choices and lifestyle:

  • I’m a super simple girl. I don’t do complex recipes and I want to spend as little time as possible cooking.
  • I currently spend 7-8 hours a day outside of the house between driving to/from the hospital and visiting with the twins.
  • I don’t make separate meals for my 16-month old. Everything I eat needs to be something he can/will eat.
  • I don’t eat foods I don’t enjoy. I love food! I want to enjoy every meal. That’s a must for me.
  • Though sleep is important for fat loss (and healing), I don’t get much of it. My 16 month old is going through a sleep regression and I get up by 4:30 every morning to drive to the hospital.
  • I think working out is incredibly important for health and longevity. It’s not, however, primary for fat loss. Nutrition is. So, while I workout a few days a week, that’s more of a lifestyle strategy and not a fat loss strategy. Fat loss is all about hormones and nutrition.

Eating for Postpartum Weight Loss

This is what works for me right now. It doesn’t mean this is what works for you. In fact, what so many people overlook is that one of the reasons this works for me is because it’s inclusive of foods I love. If these aren’t foods you love or look forward to eating, it’s probably not right for you!

These are also foods that my toddler will eat and foods that are super portable for my trips to and from the hospital. I also drink about a gallon of water throughout the day.

Here’s a pretty typical day of eating:

4:30am coffee with a splash of heavy cream

5am 5% (full fat) plain greek yogurt with 1 scoop chocolate protein powder

9am Kalahari Biltong (sugar free beef jerky)

11:30am Chipotle Mexican Grill (Here’s my order: burrito bowl, no rice or beans, add fajita veggies, steak, pico, guacamole)

2:45pm protein shake made with water, ice and a spoonful of cashew butter

5:30pm spaghetti squash topped with ground beef, tomatoes, basil and cheese

**Sometimes I’ll have some popcorn before bed, but I go to bed as early as humanly possible, so when I have the choice of bed or popcorn, bed wins!

Two or three times a week we’ll go out to dinner instead of eating at home. I’ve found that as long as I’m not choosing starch or sugar, I can be pretty flexible in what I order. I remind myself that if I eat even just 4 times per day, including snacks, that’s 28 times per week. Two or 3 of those 28 times aren’t the make or break for fat loss. With that perspective, I don’t stress over eating out as much as I used to. However, I have done a few podcast episodes on eating out, if that’s something you want help with. Check out episodes 091 and 439 of the Primal Potential podcast for more on this! 

Supplementing for Postpartum Recovery and Weight Loss

It’s hard to distinguish between supplements I take for restoring health after pregnancy/c-section and supplements I take to support weight loss because at the end of the day, your body will resist fat loss if it’s unwell. Supporting recovery is supporting weight loss. Of course none of these supplements are required for fat loss, but I’d be leaving a lot out if I didn’t include this part of my protocol.

Thorne Ferrasorb – this is an iron supplement I take because of my postpartum anemia. I don’t take iron daily outside of this goal.

Relief+ – this is an all natural anti-inflammatory. There’s a lot of inflammation in your system after pregnancy and delivery. Additionally, carrying extra weight often initiates inflammation and yet excess inflammation can slow fat loss. This is one I take all the time, even outside of a fat loss or postpartum period.

GBXFit – this one is the world’s first quadbiotic and it’s a supplement that specifically targets fat loss.

Mood+ – this is an all natural adaptogen that helps to moderate the body’s stress response. This is a must-have for restoring hormone balance, reducing the likelihood of postpartum depression and facilitating fat loss (because stress inhibits fat loss). I take this in all seasons of life.

KidsMood – same as above, just a different formula to tackle different angles. I take this in all seasons of life.

Grass fed Beef Liver – you won’t catch me eating liver. I think it’s disgusting but the health and healing benefits are unrivaled.

Omega – If you don’t take DHA, you don’t have DHA. For a million reasons, this is one I take daily. Fat is healing and healed bodies burn fat better. These omega fatty acids are some of the most important ones. I take this in all seasons of life.

What About Workouts?

As I shared earlier, I view working out as something to do for longevity, mental health and energy more than something for fat loss. After all, you can negate the caloric benefits of a workout in a single snack or meal! If you can only focus on one thing for postpartum fat loss, have it be nutrition!

With that said, I emphasize walking as much as possible and lifting weights a few times per week. I’ll move toward heavier weights as my core heals from my c-section. I like to focus on compound functional movements like squatting, deadlifting, pressing and pulling. These workouts are low intensity and short in duration. Nutrition and hormones are the drivers of fat loss, especially postpartum!

What did I leave out? I’m an open book so hit me with any questions you have and join the Primal Potential FB group to see and hear more updates from my journey!

The Best Protein Shake: My Two Favorite Recipes

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I’m not going to lie: I’m picky, especially when it comes to protein shakes. Hands down, I make the best protein shake. Not only does it need to be healthy, it’s just as important to me that it tastes good. If I don’t enjoy drinking it and look forward to it each day, I’m not going to go to the trouble of dirtying the blender. Today I’m going to share with you my top two recipes and some variations based on your preferences and favorite ingredients.

best protein shake

Before we get into the recipes though, I have to share a few under-appreciated tips for creating your best protein shake.

  1. Make sure you have a great blender! 
    Ever had a clumpy protein shake? Yeah, that’s gross. Especially because I’m a huge fan upping the nutrient density and volume by adding cauliflower rice. It has no flavor and takes on whatever it’s with, but you want it to be creamy and smooth, so a good blender is a must. For the last 10 years, I’ve used a Vitamix. Yes, they’re pricey, but they last. If I did the math on the price per use, it would be pennies.
  2. Choose a quality protein powder
    Here’s the deal – not all protein is created equal, at all. I won’t tell you “the best” because that depends on your goals. The best I can do is share my criteria for selecting a protein powder and the one I love most. I want to make sure I’m getting at least 15-20 grams of protein in my shake and I want to be sure it’s high quality, “clean”, and a form that is easily digested. It’s also important to me that it’s low in both carbohydrates and sugars. I don’t want artificial colors, flavors or sweeteners. But at the same time, it has to taste great and mix well. I’ve tried a ton and the vast majority leave me disappointed. Currently, there’s one that I truly love and it’s Amare’s GBX Protein. It comes in vanilla, chocolate and salted caramel. I use the vanilla and chocolate most. One serving delivers 17g protein, only 4g carbohydrate and zero sugar. Yes please!

The Best Protein Shake – My Two Favorite Recipes

As of when I’m writing this, I’m pregnant with twins and this one is my daily favorite. Sometimes it’s breakfast, sometimes it’s lunch, sometimes it’s dinner, but it’s always part of my day. When I drink it, I know I’m getting some veggies, protein, fat and some carbs from a whole food source. And of course, it’s delicious, otherwise I definitely wouldn’t drink it! My 11 month old is a big fan, too!

Chocolate Peanut Butter Banana

Add all ingredients into your blender and blend until creamy!

  • Approximately 2 cups water (you can absolutely use your favorite milk, if you’d prefer)
  • 1/2 cup frozen cauliflower rice
  • 1/2 banana
  • 1 tbsp nut butter (I use cashew butter most often)
  • 2 scoops chocolate protein (this is the one I swear by)

If you’re looking to pump up the protein even more, add 1/2 cup of greek yogurt! If you’re looking to stay even lower carb, you can ditch the banana and/or just use 1/4 of it. At the same time though: don’t stress over 1/2 a banana. No one has a weight issue because they put 1/2 banana in their protein shake, ya know? #perspective

Green Protein

Add all ingredients into your blender and blend until creamy!

  • 2 cups unsweetened milk of your choice (I use almond or cashew milk)
  • 1 handful raw spinach
  • 3/4 cup frozen cauliflower rice
  • 1/2 cup frozen blueberries (you can use any fruit you love – I like blueberries or mango best)
  • 2 scoops vanilla GBX Protein 
  • *optional 1 tbsp chia seeds
  • *optional 1 scoop mentabiotics
  • *optional 1 tbsp maca

I have a million variations of these shakes based on what I’m in the mood for and what I have on hand. Sometimes I skip the spinach but I rarely skip the frozen cauliflower rice. These are a great way to pack in a super nutrient-dense meal AND have something very quick and easy that you enjoy!

I have a coupon code for the protein I use, so reach out if you’d like me to share it!

Mental Mistakes That Will Kill Your Progress

What if, from this point forward, you made consistent progress toward your goals without being held back by excuses, delays or the dreaded self-sabotage? Even if it seems unlikely, or unlike you, it’s absolutely possible. The key is avoiding a few super common mental mistakes that can kill your progress!

We’re diving into them in episode 953 of the Primal Potential podcast, so if this sounds like something you need to focus on, don’t miss the episode!

Mental Mistakes That Will Kill Your Progress

Drama

I know, no one likes to think of themselves as dramatic and you probably don’t think that of all things, drama is what’s holding you back. However, think of drama the way author Cy Wakeman defines it: drama is what you add to the facts. 

When I look back at my decades of failed weight loss attempts, I see a lot of drama. If I pledged to eat super clean all day but quickly succumbed to the donuts in the break room I’d think, “What’s wrong with me! Why can’t I just be consistent! I screwed up the whole day!” Drama. The plain fact is that I ate a donut. What I added to the fact was all sorts of emotion, judgement and doomsday-ing.

I hear drama from my clients all the time when they share their own judgement and emotional projection over something that’s really not a big deal at all.

Drama keeps us from moving on to our next best choice. It drains our energy and tricks us into focusing more on the problem than we do on the solution. Sometimes we just need to practice being a bit more rational and emotionally mature. Being objective when you are used to be emotional can change the game completely!

(A big part of drama stems from unrealistic expectations. I dive into that piece in episode 953 so make sure to tune in to the episode for that!)

Drifting

We have a lot of competing priorities and a finite amount of time to give to them. That’s one of the major reasons people drift away from their good intentions, discipline and commitment. It’s not easy to stay engaged but it is possible. It requires that we recognize our tendency to drift and instead choose to remain intentional each day.

We’re not striving to be perfect – there’s no need to execute a perfect 10/10 day, but we do have to stay tethered to what it is we’re trying to achieve.

Personally, the Change Makers Journal is the tool I use to ensure I don’t drift. That doesn’t have to be your tool, but you do need one!

Pretending You Don’t Know

Almost every day, someone in my Primal Potential FB group messages me to share that they ‘just don’t know’. They don’t know where to start, they don’t know how to reach their goal, they don’t know what’s wrong with them or they don’t know how to get unstuck.

More often than not, I respond to these statements the same way. I tell them, “I think you do know. I think you can absolutely tell me one idea for where to start, or one thing you could do to reach your goal or one thing you’re doing that’s getting in your way, etc.”

Every single time – literally every single time – I’ve been right. They do have ideas. They do know improvements they can make. But, this mental mistake of telling ourselves or others that we don’t know…it’s lethal!

It’s a way that we subconsciously let ourselves off the hook. We don’t have to do anything when “we don’t know”, but if we’re begin honest, we ALWAYS know enough to take a single step forward. Every. single. time.

With each and every one of these mental mistakes, and others, we have to slow down enough to allow our higher, more rational thinking to show up to the party.

If you can relate to any of these mental mistakes, make sure you tune in to episode 953 of the Primal Potential podcast!

 

If You Have Trouble Losing Weight, Read This!

I know so many people who have trouble losing weight. In fact, I’ve been that person! Whether your appetite feels out of control no matter what you do, or if you have crazy-strong cravings or it’s simply that no amount of dieting and exercising seems to do the trick, you’re going to want to read more.

Your cravings are more than habit.

Your appetite isn’t about willpower.

There’s a lot more to your body’s willingness to burn fat than how much you eat and how active you are.

A huge variable is…

Your microbiome.

In episode 951 of the Primal Potential podcast, we’re talking with Dr. Shawn Talbott about the ways the bacteria in and on your body influence your body’s signals to burn fat and store fat as well as their influence on your cravings, appetite and so much more!

Trouble Losing Weight? Here are a few things you need to know!

  • Your microbiome influences digestion, fat storage, fat burning, appetite, mood, cravings and more!
  • Many stubborn weight issues stem from gut issues
  • Intentionally optimizing your microbiome can make a difference even without diet and exercise changes
  • Making improvements to your microbiome can lower inflammation in your body which makes fat loss easier (even without diet and exercise)

I totally understand if you’re skeptical and doubt that your microbiome can address your trouble losing weight, but I promise it can! Dr. Shawn and I go into detail in episode 951 so be sure to listen!

Can a Quadbiotic Help?

In the episode, we talk about the role of a quadbiotic. If you haven’t heard that term, it’s because it’s a very new one and refers to a 4-part blend related to microbiome improvements.

  1. Probiotic: In the episode, we talk about a specific probiotic that lowers inflammation throughout your body, decreasing resistance to fat burning. When there is excess inflammation, it makes your body less likely to burn fat.
  2. Prebiotic: The prebiotic fiber we discuss helps reduce cravings and moderate appetite
  3. Phytobiotic: The specific phytobiotic we discuss in episode 951 lowers stress and improves your body’s stress response which aids in fat burning and metabolism
  4. Postbiotic: This is a “dead” probiotic (therefore a postbiotic) which specifically targets belly fat

If you want to give it a try for yourself, you can check it out here. Be sure to use the code BENTON to save $10 on your first order!

Trust me, you’re going to want to tune in to the full episode because it’s about to make health, metabolism and fat loss make a whole lot more sense to a whole lot more people!

3 Keys To Make Sure Lack of Motivation Never Gets In Your Way

We’ve all experienced, I’m sure. You have a clear goal. You know what you need to do to achieve and you’re ready! You’re fired up and determined to make it happen. That is, at least, until your motivation evaporates and you have no idea how to get it back.

I’ve been there. It’s not fun. It’s especially crappy when the ebb and flow of motivation leads to being consistently inconsistent.

In episode 949 of the podcast I’m sharing with you 3 keys to make sure your lack of motivation never gets in your way! This is one you’re going to want to listen to again and again!

3 Keys to Make Sure Lack of Motivation Never Gets In Your Way

  1. Practice doing it unmotivated

    Never forget that motivation is a feeling and no feeling lasts forever. With that in mind, you will become unstoppable if you develop a practice of executing especially when you’re unmotivated. Think about it this way: there are a lot of things you do without motivation. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been motivated to empty the dishwasher or carry out the trash. I do it because I want the result of those things. I do it because I’ve developed a habit out of sheer discipline.

    Motivation doesn’t matter if you’re disciplined.

    That’s what we’re after. We dive deeper into this in episode 949 with lots of examples, but I want you to seek out those moments when you just don’t feel like doing whatever is aligned with your goal or priority. Don’t feel like working out? Perfect. You need that moment. This is your chance. Be grateful for the opportunity and do the thing. It doesn’t matter if it’s a 10 minute circuit in your living room or if you throw on your sneakers and head to the gym. Be on the lookout for those times when you just aren’t feeling like it…that’s the moment you need in order to become someone who is impervious to any lack of motivation!

  2. Forget that motivation exists

    Sounds weird, I know. Tune in to the episode if you need more on this one. In it, I share how a client once told me that she didn’t feel worthy of losing weight. I asked her, “What does worthiness have to do with it? Why are you even considering worthiness? Do it unworthy.” She brought worthiness into the equation even though it wasn’t serving her.

    Whether it’s worthiness, motivation or anything else…if it’s tripping you up, take it out of the equation! It’s a practice, but with some intentionality you can completely eliminate your pattern of considering how motivated you are, or aren’t.

  3. Take responsibility for your motivation

    For those of you who are thinking, “But Elizabeth, I want to feel motivated!” – I’ve got you! This one will literally help you stay motivated. Create a file on your computer or in your phone – a living, breathing file that you continuously add to – of things that motivate you. It could be pictures, quotes, stories, people, podcasts, books or all of the above. I’ve done this in the notes app of my iPhone. While ultimately I prefer discipline to motivation, I like knowing that if I want to feel motivated, it’s just a click or two away. Just the other day some guy motivated the heck out of me via his Instagram post. I took a screen shot and added it to my “motivation” note. I do the same thing if I read something that fires me up. After doing it for a few days or months, you are able to motivate yourself on demand!

    If you aren’t sure where to start, head over to the Primal Potential FB group and ask for ideas on pictures, quotes, books or ideas that motivate the other folks in the group! You could have a heck of a start by just asking that question and getting ideas from others!

Don’t forget to tune into episode 949! In fact, it might be something you add to your own collection so you return to it when you’re feeling a lack of motivation!

3 Things You Need To Know To Get & Stay Consistent

There’s a certain energy that comes with a new year, don’t you think? It seems like focus and drive get bumped up a little bit when January rolls around, at least for a while. If we want to leverage that energy to create change that actually lasts, we have to figure out the ways to stay consistent, otherwise it’s just two steps forward and four steps back.

I spent some time reflecting on what helped me stay consistent in the process of achieving big goals like losing 150 pounds, starting a business and writing two books. And now, as I work towards some new goals, I considered what fuels my consistency and what doesn’t.

In fact, I put together a podcast sharing these keys to consistency so if you haven’t checked out episode 947 of the Primal Potential podcast, you’ll definitely want to do that!

3 Things You Need to Know to Stay Consistent

First, I want to make sure you know the two things that are absolutely required for consistency. While there are a million things you could focus on like motivation or accountability, there are only two things you must have.

  1. Specificity
  2. Follow through

Specificity is the one that held me back for years. I was clear on my goals but I never really got specific which meant I wasn’t often taking action.

I’ll give you an example. When I weighed over 350 pounds, there was nothing in the world I wanted more than to lose weight. I thought about it all the time. I knew that I needed to eat better and that it would probably help if I started working out, but more days than not, I made excuses and didn’t do the work. I’d plan out how much weight I could theoretically lose per week and how long it might take to get to my ‘goal weight’, but none of those things created consistency in the habits I’d need to establish for a lifetime of being fit and healthy.

Specificity Is A Superpower

I actually talked about this way back in episode 563 – “Motivation for When You Feel Stuck” and it’s as true now as it was then. It’s something we talk about in this week’s episode, too (947). If you want to stay consistent, you have to focus more on the small picture than you do on the big picture.

I’m currently working on my third book and thinking about things like when it will be done and how much it will take to get there won’t move the needle. Instead, I focus on the small picture: when will I write today and for how long?

As I work on losing weight from my two back-to-back pregnancies, focusing on the small picture and being specific drive my consistency. Each day, I’m writing down the three action steps I’ll take to drive that goal. My action steps today aren’t necessarily the same as my action steps yesterday and they don’t need to be. What drives my consistency is specificity and focusing more on the small picture than I do on the big picture. I use the Change Makers Journal for this specificity of my daily focus. You don’t have to use that, but do have a process for daily specificity!

Follow Through

A lot of us make the mistake of relying on motivation but as hard as it might be, we have to divorce that notion. When you have discipline, motivation doesn’t matter!

What gets in the way of discipline, of course, are our excuses. One of the most important steps we can make to support our follow through, is to develop emotional maturity in our thoughts. Think about it this way: if you know you need to stay consistent in order to make progress, you can’t continue to justify not having time, not being in the mood or pledge to get back on track tomorrow.

In order to decrease the appeal of your excuses, you have to become a more rational, objective thinker.

It’s a practice, and I give a bunch of examples in episode 947.

I am 100% on board for my goals this year, and I’m 100% on board to help you achieve yours, too! Get started by tuning in to episode 947 and if there’s anything I can do to help you, definitely let me know!

 

4 Tools for Overcoming Insecurity

It feels like insecurity is more prevalent than ever, especially as people compare themselves, their relationships, finances, businesses, fitness, fashion and everything else against what they see on the internet. I decided to share my own tips for overcoming insecurity after feeling insecure about so many things while on a business trip to Cabo last month.

I caught myself low-key comparing my outfits, my business, my personality and my postpartum body while I could have been soaking in the sun and family time. I’ll tell you – it didn’t feel good and, left unchecked, can wreak havoc on our mental health and relationships.

I go through these 4 tools and how I apply them in episode 943 of the Primal Potential podcast so definitely tune in to that episode too!

4 Tools for Overcoming Insecurity

  1. Evaluate what you have at the center of the story
  2. Remember that it’s a focus before it’s a feeling
  3. Ask yourself what matters most (and if you’re acting like it)
  4. Remind yourself that you create your results and if you don’t like something, you can give your energy to changing it

You’re definitely going to want to listen to episode 943 to hear all the examples of each of these tools and how I use them in my own life, but I’ll give you a little insight right here.

Evaluate what you have at the center of the story

More often than not, we have ourselves at the center of the story when we’re feeling insecure. We are thinking about our bodies, our income or any number of other things related to ourselves. When you put something else at the center of the story like connection, another person, or a value you hold, the insecurity starts to fade away. (If you want more on this, tune in to episode 943!

Remember that it’s a focus before it’s a feeling

This is one of my most powerful reminders when it comes to overcoming insecurity. Everything is a focus before it’s a feeling! That means that if we shift the focus, we will change how we feel. I share in episode 943 how when I focus on my postpartum body in a bathing suit and what other people might think, I feel a certain way. However, when I shift my focus to how blessed I am to have a healthy baby to play with in the pool, I feel very different!

Ask yourself what matters most (and if you’re acting like it)

In the podcast episode, I share a moment when I had to stop myself in the middle of my insecurity and ask myself what matters most. I thought about how family and health matter most and realized very quickly that I wasn’t acting like it! In your moments of insecurity, stop and ask yourself these questions!

You create your results

There are always going to be things we don’t like about ourselves or our circumstances but here’s the deal: we create our results. You can either give your energy to how you feel about the problem or you can give your energy to what you’re going to do about the solution. You create your results. In my moments of insecurity, I remind myself that if I don’t like it, I can change it! Time to get to work!

Tune in to episode 943 for a deeper conversation and be sure to let me know what you think!

One Tool to Make Change Easier

I don’t know about you, but I’m always looking to make change easier. More often than not, it feels anything but easy!

I lost over 150 pounds and most of the time, it felt anything but easy. I’ve tried to change so many habits, big and small, and I kind of thing that’s just the way it goes with change…it doesn’t feel easy!

Fortunately, there are things we can do to make it easier.

I was emailing back and forth with a podcast listener the other day and she shared with me that she got some ‘borderline’ tests back from her doctor. The doctor wanted to put her on meds but she really wanted to try tackling it from a diet & lifestyle standpoint first. Even with the motivation to avoid medication, she was reluctant to make the lifestyle changes. She said, “It feels like I have to give up everything I enjoy!”

Enter: one tool that will absolutely make change easier.

Practice intellectual maturity.

Be more honest with yourself. Ditch the drama.

Sometimes our thoughts happen so fast that we don’t even notice our own intellectual immaturity. We accept the thought and the impact it has on our mindset, outlook and motivation.

Let’s revisit what this particular listener said regarding making some improvements to her diet and lifestyle:

It feels like I have to give up everything I enjoy.

Everything? Really? You have to give up your favorite TV show? You have to give up girls’ night? Sex with your spouse? Laughing with your kids?

You most certainly don’t have to give up everything you enjoy.

Not only that…why would you tell yourself you have to “give up” anything, never mind everything! Making improvements has nothing to do with “giving up” anything and certainly not everything.

However, in our intellectual immaturity, we paint with a broad brush and feel discouraged before we even start.

We break this down in episode 941 of the Primal Potential podcast and when you take on this practice, there’s no doubt that change will get easier!

 

 

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