We might not agree. I might present a thought or idea and you might see things differently.
That doesn’t make me wrong. It doesn’t make you wrong.
We simply see it differently. Can we talk about our differences? Of course! Learn from each other? I hope so! But it doesn’t have to come from the place of “right” and “wrong”. Just, DIFFERENT.
I love to learn. I refuse to fight.
I took myself out to lunch today and the sign over the door said,
Enjoy yourself. It’s later than you think.
Wouldn’t the world be a better place if instead of trying to make someone else wrong so we can be right we just agreed that it’s okay to feel differently? Speak differently? Act differently?
I love you. I respect your opinions. But, enough.
Enough with the idea that for you to be right, I have to be wrong or for me to be right, you have to be wrong.
Different.
You’re a vegan? Cool! Great for you! You eat all your carbs at breakfast? Awesome! Enjoy them. You’re a calorie or macro counter? Fantastic! Do what works for you. You wouldn’t have brought up that topic I decided to go into? Cool! I respect your choice.
If that’s not okay with you, take your arguing somewhere else.
My life is beautifully short and I choose peace. There are millions of people on the internet who would love to argue with you over right and wrong.
I’m not one of them.
Perfectly said. And I feel the same. I have chosen to step back from those who only wish to fight and blame. No time for it in my life.
Love that, Denise! We choose joy!! Make it a great day and thanks so much for reading!
I read “How to Communicate Like A Buddhist.” It’s been life changing for me. I no longer feel like I have to show up for every invite to a battle. It’s taught me to just be quiet and listen. And how to respond, not react.
I loved that book!
You are so wise! We need more people to think this way and maybe learn from each other!
I struggle with people closest to me with this idea of being “right” and how I am seeing myself get in the mindset of being critical. I want to choose peace. I want to choose love. I don’t want to argue. I’m really trying to find a way to build a relationship with a family member who is very hard to talk with about other ideas that are foreign to her. I want to share ideas, but when that’s not possible, I just want to be kind. I continue to work on kindness and love, and not being negative, this is a very hard challenge when dealing with someone who just is intent on being “right”. Let me know any suggestions you may have in regards to working better with and loving the people who seem to not believe that ideas other than their own can be possibilities for others.
Deb, consider that maybe she doesn’t have to talk about ideas that are foreign to her. It might be that you are setting a standard for her openness and that’s YOUR standard, not hers. She doesn’t have to conform to how you want to talk about new ideas. My biggest “suggestion” is just to accept that other people get to operate their way. My way is my way, not theirs. Your way is your way, not theirs. Your way isn’t the right way, it’s just your way. I’d encourage you to put away the expectation that others “should” respond a certain way.