Insecurity. Fear of what others think. We’re going there today, not to have a theoretical discussion, but to talk about strategies and perspectives that will help each one of us stop letting those feelings limit our lives.
It’s a choice. We feel those feelings, think those thoughts and face those fears but we don’t need to submit to them.
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What if the judgement is actually spoken by the friend (ex-friend) or parent? How do you not take it personally when it’s not in your imagination and they are clear and direct about it?
You get to decide the meaning you attach to it. People are allowed to have opinions and it’s okay if they are different from yours. Someone emailed me earlier today expressing that their family members criticize them for being cheap. Someone can think you are cheap. You decide if you attach emotionally to how they feel or not. If someone is criticizing you, you get to decide how to respond AND if you attach any meaning to it. For example, I have family members who comment on what I eat. I smile and say, “You do you. I’ll do me.” They can have their opinion. I choose to not attach to it. I create the story. I can tell myself, “Oh my god! How dare they comment on what I eat!” or, “They have an opinion. I don’t share it.” WE are the story tellers. We decide the meaning.
Hi EB,
Wow!!! Thank you SO VERY MUCH for this episode!!! Yeah, I agree with you we definitely need more episodes on this subject.
I definitely see myself in what you said about the importance of stopping the judgment of others if you want to stop having that fear!!! Goes in the same line of this Bible verse in Matthew 7:1 « Stop judging that you may not be judged; »
Thank you very much for this episode, definitely in my top 5!
Thank you for this episode. It makes you think every time you have an opinion about something and being able to check myself. I also think this will help me be a better listener which I am always working on and it so important to good healthy relationships.
Thanks again!
I’m so glad, Linda! Thanks so much for listening and for your feedback! I’m super grateful!