Here’s what I believe: judgemental people don’t accept themselves.
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If you’re using your time and energy to judge me (or anyone else), it tells me a lot about you and nothing about me.
Judgement has it roots in comparison. Comparison is steeped in insecurity.
My friend, no one gets to make decisions or judgements of another’s shape, size, pace, progress or perspective.
If you believe there is a right size, that is true for YOU. That doesn’t make it true for others. You go right along being that right size.
If you believe there is a right pace, that is true for YOU. That doesn’t make it true for others. You go right along pursuing that pace.
If you believe there is a right way, that is true for YOU. That doesn’t make it true for others. You go right along doing it that way.
Let your judgement of others wake you up to opportunities you have to do work on YOU.
agreed!
Very well said. Thank you Elizabeth for every single post, it’s always very helpful and help us to grow.
I seem to attract unwarranted comments. Why do I drink so much water, go outside at lunch time. My corduroys make noise when I walk. I wear Keens so I must “Hike”. You have to smoke or have a dog to walk to be understood why you go outside. When it is to get away from the status quo keeping us unhealthy. If you talk about places with large meals and and you satellite TV regime you are left be. As a young person you go along with the crowd to be left alone, in the herds sickness. My snack gets looked over from a table away. “Are you a vegetarian”, if it if farm fresh veggies more than a day in a row. If I grab crackers left out for all, oh there is sugar and bla bla bla in it. This is all by one lately who sits with her tablet and makes remarks while your mouth is full or your trying to read a book. A Troll. I am defensive and sensitive if I tell her clearly to butt out. It makes it more fun for them to taunt. I already reported her for cornering me the first few weeks employed there. At parties I find her sitting next to me? She has been there seven years without friends. Weirdo magnet? Why do people bother you when you are quiet and considerate?
I just wouldn’t give it my attention. To me, this isn’t a problem about others sharing their opinions. It’s an issue of you letting it take up your energy and attention. Are you quiet and considerate if you’re calling her a troll and making assessments about her friendships? I’m not saying yes or no, it’s just something to think about. You could choose to give it less of your attention.
Do you put blinders on when other people around you are relentlessly judgmental towards you? How do you keep ignoring it? In the past I’ve had to get out of a couple of “friendships” loosely labeled term due to their constant pushing to either embrace their religious and/or political views.
I don’t put blinders on. I’m just interested in what I think of myself, and what those closest to me think of me. It’s not about ignoring it, it’s just about what is true for me. If someone is judging me, it’s not about THEM. I’ll look at what they said, “Is that true of me? Do I agree?” If I don’t agree, if their opinion of me isn’t my opinion of me, it’s not my problem. It’s theirs.