Episode 543 of the podcast was one of the most popular ones I’ve done to date. In it, we talked about insecurity, fear of judgement and refusing to restrict your life to the boundaries of your fears.
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I shared that one HUGE thing I’m working on is refusing to submit to fear.
I don’t want “fears” (or even more benign thoughts) about what others think of my body to influence what I wear, for example.
I don’t want fears of what people might think to stop me from getting up to dance at a bar.
I don’t want fears of other people’s opinions to limit what I say or share in my life or in my business.Here’s what I’ve been telling myself, over and over again as I practice this:
The difference between something I’m afraid of and something I’m excited about is the perspective I choose.
The difference between an adventure and an obstacle is my attitude.
I got a super-major chance to practice what I preach this week.
I was recently accepted into an elite (and very expensive) business mastermind. The only thing holding me back from joining was fear. The only thing that kept me from immediately accepting the invitation was fear.
- Fear of spending such a huge sum of money
- Fear of going way outside my comfort zone
- Fear of commitment
- Fear of not fitting in
Focused on the fears, risks and my discomfort, I told the mastermind host that I needed to think about it and I’d email him the following day.
About 3 minutes after I said that, I got honest with myself and sent him the below email (make sure you’ve allowed images for this email so you can see it.)
The subject line of the email was: I’m in. Here’s part of what I wrote:
When I told him I’d think about it, I was buying myself time to consider all those fears. All those risks and nerves.
BUT: that’s not who I want to be. I don’t want to let my fears influence my actions.
I don’t want to continue to limit my life to the boundaries of my fears and worries.
The difference between something I’m afraid of and something I’m excited about is the perspective I choose.
The difference between an adventure and an obstacle is my attitude.
The difference between you being stressed about weight loss and excited about it is your attitude.
The difference between me being nervous about buying a new property and excited is my attitude.
The difference between me being nervous about my book launch and over-the-moon excited is the story I tell myself about it, my perspective.
The difference between me being embarrassed by my blinking llama onesie (that I wore to a party last night) and thrilled by it is the perspective I choose.
I’m not waiting until 2019 to refuse fear. I’m not waiting another minute to choose a perspective of adventure and opportunity. I’m doing it now.
This is a HUGE part of my work with my clients – helping them refuse to indulge the story of their pasts & their fears and helping them get EXCITED about
This past Thursday, I opened up registration to my Winter 12 Weeks to Transformation to folks who were on the wait list. Today, I want to share with you the webinar I did with them to explain and explore how & why the 12 WT is different from what you’ve tried in the past, how it’s NOT a diet and how we can finally leave the struggle behind.
I’d love to invite you to watch it! Here’s the link and the password is w2019. If you want to cut the crap and stop playing small, this is absolutely worth an hour of your time!
Here’s the full link: https://vimeo.com/306312761
I’d love to the opportunity to work with you this winter IF you watch the webinar and think it’s an amazing fit for you!