Ok guys, let me shoot straight for a second: if you feel like fat loss is miserable and you’re missing out, you’re not doing it right. Seriously. I get it, because I’ve lived it and coached hundreds through it. You’re not alone, but we’ve gotta square this away for you. If fat loss is hard, something needs to change.
Either your perspective needs work or your strategy has to change. Or both. Probably both.
In today’s episode I’m bringing forth an uncomfortable truth: fat loss shouldn’t be hard. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but if it’s miserable and you hate it and you are always focused on deprivation, you’re just not doing it right.
Let’s launch into the episode and talk about how to make fat loss easy.
What To Do If Fat Loss Is Hard
If you feel like fat loss is hard, it’s very likely that you’re messing up 2 things.
You’ll definitely want to listen to the full episode to understand the way I identify these common mistakes that make fat loss way harder than it needs to be, if not impossible.
I spot it quickly when I get emails that say things like,
I made great choices Monday through Friday, but when the weekends come, I totally blow it every time and undo my progress from the week.
If I eat really clean, I feel like I’m missing out and end up binging.
Here’s the reality:
If the foods you’re eating make you feel deprived and like you’re missing out, you’re not eating the right foods for you.
We’re not going to do things we don’t want to do or don’t enjoy, not over the long haul, anyway.
My primary food rule is to eat foods you love that love you back. No one can define these foods for you with a meal plan or food list. You have to identify what you enjoy, look forward to eating and feel great about during and afterwards.
Some of the fat loss friendly foods I love and look forward to eating are bunless burgers (especially with bacon!), sashimi, Brussels sprouts and avocado. There are more but that’s not the point. You have to find what these are.
For a sustainable lifestyle change, you have not just like the food you eat, but enjoy & look forward to it.
The second issue is perspective.
Describing is prescribing, my friends, and when you argue for your limitations, guess what? You get to keep them. You’re making a case for them so they’re there to stay.
If you decide & prescribe that you make great choices all week & blow it on the weekend, guess what? You’re right! You’ve decided for it. You’ve argued for it. You’re defending that behavior with your words and your thoughts and your choices.
Same thing if you argue that you can’t eat too clean or you’ll rebel and go off the rails.
Oh yeah? Ok. If you say so.
That’s a choice. You could change your perspective. You could decide that the cleaner you eat and the more consistent you are, the better you feel and the better you look. It increases your energy and your motivation and creates a cycle of accelerated returns. You know what? That’s probably more true than the limiting belief you’ve been arguing for but you haven’t taken the time to prove yourself wrong!
Your perspective is a choice. It’s not always easy to change but it is always worth it.
If you feel like you need help with the “how” of changing perspective, I’d recommend you check out Breaking Barriers. You can watch a presentation about it or get your questions answered. Your choice, just wanted you to know that there’s a resource for you if you’re serious about change.