406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

Do you ever find yourself rationalizing a choice you know you shouldn’t make? Do you catch yourself justifying an excuse? Talking yourself into why it’s okay to wait another day or break a promise you made to yourself?

That’s what we’re talking about today.

We’re talking about first recognizing the way you most commonly rationalize, justify or make excuses.

Then we’re talking about 3 different ways you can responsd in a resourceful way that gradually eliminates the habit of rationalizing, justifying or making excuses.

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404: Simple Decision Making Criteria

Breaking Barriers – Overcome Emotional Eating & Self-Sabotage

What Is Breaking Barriers

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

405: 3 Strategies For Massive Change

“If you don’t believe in affirmations, go into your child’s bathroom and write ‘I am a loser’ on their mirror.”

I posted this quote on Instagram the other day (with the disclaimer “please don’t actually do this, whether you believe in affirmations or not”).

The email responses that came from that post told me loud & clear: we need to talk about the way we talk to & about ourselves.

That’s what today’s episode is all about – how and why we need to change the way we talk to & about ourselves.

Lots of people know their negativity isn’t helping, but they feel like they can’t stop it.

Today I introduce 3 powerful strategies to help you make the single change that could make the most difference in your progress & overall happiness:

  • The neutral redirect
  • The empowering redirect
  • The positive redirect

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In today’s episode I mentioned that I created a list of my favorite products from Thrive Market. You can download it here.

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

404: Simple Decision Making Criteria

I believe with all my heart that if you master what we’re talking about in today’s episode, you can crush any goal you set for yourself.

Today’s episode is about getting rid of all the drama & all the stories you use to talk  yourself into choices that prevent you from reaching your goals.

Today’s episode is about distinguishing between what is really happening & the story you tell yourself about what is happening.

Today we are looking at a couple basic yet powerful ideas:

What is really happening without your story?

Implementing simple decision making criteria.

Oftentimes, we distract and exhaust ourselves with complicated stories about our past or our fears of the future and we get far away from what is really happening and the simple choice that needs to be made.

Today we are cutting through all the drama and getting to the basics of the decision at hand & how you can master challenging moments.

If you listen to any episode, listen to this one!

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In today’s episode I mentioned that I created a list of my favorite products from Thrive Market. You can download it here.

In October 2019, our relationship with Thrive Market changed. They decided to put their marketing dollars in avenues outside of podcasting but we still think they’re a good choice if you’re looking to save money on health & personal care products.

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

402: Game Changing Reframe On Creating Momentum

“If you get tired of walking up a hill, run. Momentum makes it easier.” ~ Ramit Sethi

While I know this & adamantly agree with it, reading it in a success tips email from Ramit Sethi was like hearing it & being moved by it for the first time.

Today’s episode is all about changing strategy to create momentum. Using effort & intensity to make the journey easier, not harder.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re tired of trying or not making enough progress, you can’t miss today’s episode!

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Here’s the full email from Ramit

Curious about my skin care routine? In today’s episode I detailed the Fatco products I use.

Fatco Cleansing Oil

Fatco Myrrhaculous Face Cream

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

401: Tough Love On Self Talk

Your negative self-talk & committment to your past problems is old news. It is draining you, whether you realize it or not, and it’s keeping you from the progress & success you are capable of.

It’s time to retire all your negativity & complaining and replace those limiting, prescriptive thoughts with inquiries that lead to action.

Minisode of tough love!

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

398: How To Fight For Yourself & Create Change

I hope today’s episode lights a fire in you! We are talking about how to break out of the pattern of complacency & really fight for your best life.

It’s not always easy but it’s 100% possible and begins with the choices you make today!

If you need to understand how to create momentum, motivation & dig into a change that feels too huge to conquer, this episode is for you!

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Resources:

21 Day Sugar Detox Salmon Cake Recipe

The Motivation Manifesto by Brendon Burchard

How To Make 2016 Amazing

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The products I mentioned in today’s episode include:

Wild Planet Canned Salmon

Bone broth & stock

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

397: Boundaries, Bright Lines & Setting Standards

On today’s episode we’re talking about boundaries and standards we set for ourselves. These are rules and restrictions but rather reminders that help us make each day as good as it can be. They are reminders that point us in the direction of choices that make us feel our very best.

I shared a new boundary I recently created for myself: I don’t indulge alone. I shared how I worked through my mental resistance to this change and the big ways I think it’s going to improve my life and my mindset.

Lastly, I talk about my honest answer to a great question from a listener. She asked, “How do you balance making progress towards your goals with being at peace with your choices & your body?”

Don’t miss today’s episode!

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ASCEND Boston 

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406: Rationalizing Versus Resourcefulness

396: Bad Advice & Unsolicited Opinions

In episode 388 I had the pleasure of interviewing Mark Sisson to talk about his new book, The Keto Reset Diet. During that interview I decided to give the reset a try, as a way of encouraging my body to be a better fat burning.

Surprisingly, my boyfriend decided to do the reset as well & in the first 12 days he lost 19 pounds.

He was talking about it with some friends when we were out to dinner the other night & the amount of bad (well intentioned but misinformed) advice that got tossed around was staggering.

I’m not one to give unsolicited advice so I didn’t jump in or counter any arguments, I just listened. I’m sure my boyfriend knew that my mind was racing, but I’m certainly not going to correct anyone who isn’t looking to learn (but rather to share what they’re sure they know).

Anyways, in today’s episode I thought I’d share the advice that was tossed around and give my two cents where people do come to hear my insights & opinions.

This past Sunday I sent out the details of what my boyfriend has been doing to lose the weight to everyone on my free VIP email list. Click the button below to get on the VIP list & get the meal ideas & recipes right away!

 

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388: Mark Sisson & The Keto Reset Diet 

The Keto Reset Diet by Mark Sisson

387: How To Become A Better Fat Burner

ASCEND Boston 

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This WILL Help You Reach Your Goals

This WILL Help You Reach Your Goals

When I was a kid I played competitive AAU basketball. We took basketball SUPER seriously in my house. My sister Debi was always better than I was (and a good 6 inches taller) but we were both pretty focused. In fact, for a while we actually worked with a private coach – practicing drills for hours on the court outside his house.

I would lie in bed at night and imagine myself at the free throw line. I would imagine every detail – my stance, how the ball felt in my hands, the pace of my breath, the sounds in the gym, the movement of my body as I released the ball, the arc of the ball as it traveled and fell into the net. Why? Because at a young age I was told that we actually train our brain by what we think about and visualize. And I believed it. Of course, like many things we learn as kids, I kinda forgot about it as I got older.

Recently I was reading a book that talked about the way visualization techniques are being used to help people who are suffering from extreme pain caused by phantom limbs. In the earliest experiments (hundreds of years ago), researchers would simply cut holes in a cardboard box. The amputee would put their arm/leg into one of the holes and position their body so the missing limb was right up against the other hole. They would hold a mirror. Via the reflection, it looked as if they now had both their limbs. Remarkably, the amputees stopped experiencing the pain of the phantom limb. Through visualization, they were able to create a new reality for their brain. The amputees were encouraged to bring the box home and complete this exercise regularly until the pain completely disappeared.

Dr. Leonard Epstein, chief of behavioral medicine at the University of Buffalo, has studied the impact of visualization on weight loss at length. He refers to it as “episodic future thinking” and encourages overweight and obese people to vividly imagine a goal or event they are looking forward to. Its super important to note that he says the effect depends on how vividly the event/goal is imagined and how positive the event is. So the more exciting the visualization, the more important it is to you and the more detailed your visualization, the greater your success will be. He also recommends wearing some type of “tag” to trigger you to practice this visualization. This could be something like a rubber band on your wrist or moving your watch to the other hand or even a reminder set in your phone for a couple times each day. The people who routinely and vividly visualize their goal lose far more weight than those who don’t!

Using visualization for weight loss is a remarkably effective tool. I use visualization every day. I use it in two different ways and I do my visualization exercises first thing in the morning and again before bed. First, I visualize my day. Hour by hour I visualize what I’ll accomplish, how I’ll feel, my interactions with other people, what I’ll eat and how I’ll feel about it. I try to be as detailed as possible. I think through my workouts, the type of intensity I’ll exert, how I’ll feel afterwards, etc. I imagine how satisfied I’ll feel at the end of the day. In bed at night, I’ll visualize the same thing for the following day. So every day is being visualized twice – the night before and in the morning.

I also visualize my future goals being achieved. I do this by thinking about my ideal day. I think about where I’ll wake up in the morning on this ideal day. Who I’ll be with. How I’ll feel. What my body looks like. How I spend my day – in detail. Where my career is at on that given day. This detailed visualization only takes 2-4 minutes and is a part of my evening and morning routine.

I understand that many people think this is hogwash. And that’s fine. You don’t have to do it. But you can’t argue that there is a ton of science supporting its validity. And if you interview many of the world’s top athletes, they will tell you that visualization is a big part of their preparation. If you’re looking to improve your health and lose weight, I’ll ask you this: can it hurt? Can it hurt to add a few minutes of visualization into your day? For me personally, I’m looking for all the advantages I can get. Weight loss isn’t easy. Self-discipline isn’t effortless. Visualization doesn’t take long, it improves my mood and outlook and I also believe it helps fuel my success.

Have you ever tried it? What do you think? Is it something you’d consider adding to your day? Lemme know in the comments!