How to Become A Change Maker

by | Mar 5, 2019 | Blog

Though I consider myself a change maker in my own life and the lives of my clients, it definitely was not always that way. In fact, if you had told me just a few years ago that I’d have created these massive changes in my health, finances and life in general, I’d have rolled my eyes in annoyance. If you had told me I could lose over 100 pounds and keep it off, I’d have seriously doubted you. If you had told me I could both get out of debt and create wealth in a few short years, I’d have told you it was impossible. If you had told me I could leave my secure job and double my income in less than two years, I’d have told you there was simply no way. I’d have been wrong.

I think you’re wrong, too. Your potential is so much greater than you think and you’ve been drastically underestimating your ability to be a change maker in your life. I’d like to help you change that.

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Most of my life was a sad mess. On the outside, it probably didn’t look too bad. I had a job, a career. I was in debt but I was living the middle-income life. I certainly had food to eat, a car to drive and a roof over my head.

What wasn’t so obvious to the outside observer was that I was completely miserable. I felt trapped in a prison I had created.

I was obese and felt trapped by my weight, my desperate desire to lose weight and the grip of my own excuses, doubts and delays. I was making a decent income but was under a ton of financial pressure, living paycheck to paycheck and hoping that there wasn’t a need for a new tire or other unexpected expense that I just couldn’t afford.

My past failures to lose weight discouraged the heck out of me and the idea of my future being any different was completely overwhelming.

I wanted a life so different from the one I was living but at the same time, I wasn’t really doing what it would take to create it.

Sure, I read every diet book and initiated 1,000+ attempts to lose weight. I created budgets that I’d fail to stick to…all the things you think you’re supposed to do when you want to change your life. Except every week was just like the week before: some good days, some awful days and very little progress.

I would tell myself, “I’ve tried everything!” Sure, that might have soothed my fragile ego, but it wasn’t the complete version of the truth.

I hadn’t tried everything. I hadn’t tried consistency. I hadn’t tried changing my mindset. I hadn’t tried working with my body instead of against it. 

I hadn’t tried being stronger than my excuses.

“I’ve tried everything” was just one of my many ways I talked myself out of progress. I was talking myself out of a different approach. I was talking myself out of my potential.

Sometimes I’d wake up full of fire and motivation to create change in my life. I’d create an elaborate plan and take a few action steps but it never lasted long.

Every “slip” would become a “slide” and that cycle eroded my trust in myself and further convinced me that change wasn’t possible for me.

It didn’t last long because I was focused on transactions more than transformation.

Maybe you’ve taken this less-than-effective (but super common) approach, too. When you focus on transactions, you focus on changing what you do.

  • Eat less
  • Exercise more
  • Count calories
  • Cut carbs
  • Weigh daily
  • Stop snacking
  • Drink less alcohol
  • Drink more water
  • Spend less
  • Make a budget
  • Save more
  • Earn more
  • Simplify

The transactional approach was never sustainable for me because I wasn’t fundamentally changing how I made decisions, how I thought about excuses or how I showed up in my life.

When you focus on transformation, you’re focused on optimizing who you are. How you think. How you feel.

  • I’m a creative, energetic problem solver.
  • I’m a victor, not a victim
  • I want to take amazing care of myself today
  • Food is my solution only when hunger is my problem
  • I want to feel full of energy
  • I make choices that make me feel more confident
  • What I want most drives my choices more than what I want now

While that’s just the tip of the iceberg, that shift is how I became a change maker in my life.

Becoming a change maker requires that you focus on the transformation of your mind and not the transactions of your body.

This is the very essence of the work I do with my clients.

We focus on happiness as the path to health instead of health as the path to happiness.

We focus on working with ourselves instead of against ourselves. Shame is not a change maker strategy.

Willpower and discipline aren’t the tools for permanent change.

There is joy in the journey when you’re on the right path!

When you take the transformational approach, you build trust in yourself. You create a sense of freedom – you’re no longer owned by the process and the struggle. You create a growing confidence in your choices and your ability to find answers from your own body (instead of relying on someone else’s opinion).

Whatever change you want to create, I’m telling you right now that with a transformational approach, you have the ability to create it. You have the ability to maintain it. You have the ability to enjoy the journey and I’d love to be part of it with you!

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