I’m about to make many of you really uncomfortable. #sorrynotsorry
What if you begin to love without limit?
But wait…there’s more…
What if you love YOURSELF without limit?
What would that look like?
What could that look like today?
Back in November at my ASCEND weekend event, I asked everyone to place their hand on their heart and smile.
It was uncomfortable. Even as I sit here now, it feels awkward to put my hand gently over my heart and smile. It feels lame. Cheesy.
That’s a defense mechanism.
Why is it so hard for us to be tender with ourselves? Why does it feel so weird?
At the risk of stating the obvious: that’s not the way it’s supposed to be.
It’s a sign that we have some important work to do.
We can be tender with our children or our lovers but it feels “wrong” to be tender with ourselves.
You might wonder what this has to food, fat loss or health.
You can’t hate your way to a body you love.
You won’t be drawn to take impeccable care of someone you resist and resent.
If you’re turning to food or alcohol in a way that pulls you away from your goals, there is deeper work to be done.
Fix the well, not the sink. Go to the source of the problem.
It’s time to develop some self-respect and self-love. Seriously. Now. It’s of the highest importance.
I’m speaking from experience here.
I spent too long thinking I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, smart enough or desirable enough.
Why would I consistently take care of someone I didn’t think was worth it?
Hint: I didn’t.
That was the problem.
What I know is this: I must meet my own needs before I can expect anyone else to.
I must respect myself, love myself and believe in myself in order to consistently take impeccable care of myself and want to do so.
I must love myself before I can feel fully loved by someone else.
We’ve got to fall in love with ourselves, guys.
We must love without limits.
It happens slowly. One thought at a time, one choice at a time, one benign moment of appreciation at a time.
Be patient. Don’t rush. Go slow.
Start by smiling.
Don’t take your thoughts so seriously.
Don’t fixate on the problems in your life.
Find the thin slices of joy.
Court yourself. Be kind. If you dare, be gentle even.
At a minimum, as I said in a recent (don’t miss) podcast – stop being such a dick to yourself.
Life is too short to be unhappy.
Love without limit.