You become your story. Guys, I so need you to understand this. I wish someone had explained it to me years ago.

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My story was a huge part of the reason I struggled with my weight for most of my life.

I was a heavy baby. I was always the chubby toddler. The heavy kid. The fat girl. I adopted that as “who I am”.

I’m just the fat girl. I’m the heavy one. I’ve always been big.

It grew from there. I’m an emotional eater. I’m great at losing weight, terrible at keeping it off.

I was taking my past, claiming it for my present and projecting it onto my future.

For as long as I believed, “I’m just the fat girl”, my choices reflected my story. My choices aligned with my identify, it just wasn’t an identity I wanted. It was, however, the one I was claiming with my story.

Every day I point out stories to my clients and was so happy to see a related quote from Varun Soni in my Instagram feed yesterday:

We become the stories we tell ourselves.

Think about that.

I’m such an emotional eater.

I’m out of control.

I’m not motivated.

I’m such an all-or-nothing person.

I can’t lose weight.

I have no will power.

You will live right into your story.

Please understand that your past choices & patterns are not who you are. They are not all you are capable of.

Do not take your past choices and define yourself by them.

You can create a different story. You can stop limiting your present by clinging to your past.

It’s time to divorce your past. It’s time to stop defining yourself by it.

When you argue for your limitations, you get to keep them.

Use your choices today to create a different story.

When you start thinking, “I have no will power“, reframe that story by asking yourself, “What is one disciplined choice I am able and willing to make today?

Are you being led by your past or your potential?

You become your story so choose carefully!