I understand turning to food for “comfort”.
I understand turning to food when you’re lonely.
I understand turning to food after rejection.
I understand turning to food when you’re bored.
I also understand what it takes to stop using food as a crutch and start learning to live and thrive without out mis-using food and betraying your body.
I understand the burning desire for a smaller body.
I understand what it feels like for your life to get smaller and smaller as your waist gets larger and larger.
It sucks. But instead of focusing on the smaller waist, I want you to start creating a larger life.
I had it all wrong. I wasted years of my life trying to solve the wrong problem.
It’s time to start pursuing happiness as the path to health, not health as the path to happiness.
How, for so many years, was I able to eat beyond the point of satiety?
How, for so many years, could I turn repeatedly to food despite desperately wanting weight loss?
There was a hunger, for sure, but it wasn’t for food.
Food was the easy stand-in.
Food was accessible. Food never said “no”. Food didn’t reject me. Food didn’t judge me. Food allowed me to suspend every problem and escape for as long as it took me to “fill” myself.
Unfortunately, food can never fill a hunger for connection.
I wasn’t comfortable in my own skin.
I had very little self-respect.
I had no confidence.
I believed that overeating was a stress reliever.
It was a stress-creator. It was also an escape.
Have you ever been left alone at a party with someone who makes you uncomfortable? Someone you don’t like or don’t get along with?
You want to escape, right?
That’s how I felt about myself.
When things got tense, I wanted to escape.
When I alone, I wanted to escape my own company.
Food was a means of escaping myself and my life. And yet, it also kept me trapped in a life & a body I hated.
Fat loss is far less about what we eat than it is about why we eat.
Why are we turning to food?
What are we truly hungry for?
What void are we looking to fill?
What are we trying to avoid?
Oftentimes, that something we’re trying to avoid is ourselves.
Why? Because we’re mean.
Would you ever be friends with someone who talks to you the way you talk to yourself?
Would you ever want to spend time with someone who is as critical of you as you are of yourself?
Would you ever want to be close to someone who just mopes and criticizes and never wants to do anything fun?
Of course not!
The single most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself.
You cannot bring your best or be your best for your friends, spouse, kids, parents or co-workers when your cornerstone relationship isn’t strong.
One of the single best things you can do for your health is build a strong relationship with yourself.
You don’t get a better relationship with yourself when you have a smaller body.
You get a better relationship with yourself when you decide to prioritize nurturing that relationship.
It’s time to begin pursuing a fuller life instead of simply being desperate for a smaller body.
That begins by building a strong, happy, healthy relationship with yourself.
In episode 317 of the Primal Potential podcast I talk about how to begin building this relationship with yourself.
It starts with not being such a jerk to yourself. It starts with being kind and gentle.
It starts with doing fun things.
It starts with realizing that life is so much bigger than food and you are more than the size of your jeans.
If you want to be healthy, focus on getting happy.
If you aren’t sure about the next steps for ending the negative self-talk and building a better relationship with yourself, absolutely check out Breaking Barriers! And don’t hesitate to reach out if you have questions!