Whether you think you’re a drama queen or you’re sure you’re not, you MUST listen to today’s podcast! Drama is draining and every single one of us has room for improvment in our creation of and response to drama.
Drama takes the form of assumptions, gossip, worry, rumination over the past and so much more. In case you’re still convinced that you’re not a drama queen, let’s take a minute to get on the same page.
Clarifying for the Drama Queen:
Cy Wakeman defines drama as emotional waste and describes drama as mentally wasteful thought processes and unproductive behaviors that keep you from your potential. Drama includes:
- Lack of ownership, accountability or committment
- Blaming circumstances or other people for your lack of results
- Arguing with circumstances that are non-negotiable
- Resistance to change
- Spreading gossip
- Projecting (and believing) made up stories instead of focusing on facts
- Defensiveness to feedback
- Dealing with hurt feelings
Questions for the Drama Queen:
Is this mine or someone else’s?
Am I doing something productive about it?
Is this my business or someone else’s business?
Am I trying to control someone else’s thoughts or behaviors?
What actually happened without my story?
What do I know for sure?
What’s my part in this?
What are my ideas for resolving the issue?
Am I grounded in reality?
What am I doing today to resolve this?
Other powerful ideas from “No Ego” and today’s episode:
“Venting is your ego’s way of avoiding self-reflection.”
“Your ego is brilliant at finding insult where none is intended.”
Drama is draining!
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