It’s time for us to get serious about breaking barriers that stand between you and the life you want. It’s time to tear down the walls, the hurdles, the perceived traps that keep you from being the person you want to be – from living the life you want to live.
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I’d love to start by sharing one of the biggest mistakes I’ve made. Most of you know that I struggled with my weight for nearly all my life. From the day I was born until just a few years ago, my weight was a constant source of frustration, worry & shame.
Though I was getting heavier and heavier, I was obsessed with weight loss. I read every diet book. I saw nutritionists, joined Weight Watchers, had a personal trainer – and this was all before high school.
Regardless, my weight climbed. The pattern continued in high school, through college and after.
It seemed like every week was another diet. Another plan. 21-day this. 30-day that.
While the strategies were different, a few things remained the same: my pattern of doubting myself, a habit of breaking promises I made. A routine of saying, “I’ll start tomorrow” or “This one thing won’t hurt“.
This pattern wasn’t just showing up in my weight struggles. It was also showing up in my finances.
Month after month, I’d setup a new budget or get excited about a new plan to save money or spend less or earn more. Week after week, I’d make exceptions and excuses.
There effort was there. The results, however, were not.
I wrote in Chasing Cupcakes that it felt like 1,000 beginnings with no end in sight.
So what was the big mistake? Interestingly, my own decades of struggle weren’t enough to show me this pattern because, unfortunately, it’s harder to see patterns in our own lives than to identify them in the lives of others. That’s why I value having coaches. That’s why my clients are able to create such massive breakthroughs – because I can see these plain-as-day patterns when they aren’t able to.
The mistake is that I thought creating change was about the plan. The program. The protocol. I spent tens of thousands of dollars trying to find “the right one”.
That’s not what we need in order to change.
We have to break down the barriers. Our work isn’t related to the plan or the program. Our work is about identifying and removing what is in the way.
See, there is more than 1 way to lose weight. There is more than 1 way to create wealth. There is more than 1 way to do absolutely everything. And NONE of them will work if you keep bumping in to the same barriers.
On the flip side, most of them will work after you remove the barriers.
So, that’s what I do with my clients in the 12 Weeks to Transformation. We break down the barriers. We remove them. And as we do that, we remove the struggle. We diminish and ultimately eliminate the resistance.
Please, stop thinking that your answer is in the next diet. That success is a matter of keto versus vegan. That’s simply untrue. Let’s change the game and upgrade the strategy and finally achieve the goals you’ve been working for for so long!
Breaking Barriers – Resources
Within the 12 Weeks to Transformation, that’s my sole objective. With daily coaching audios, weekly challenges, a guided Identity Journal and live coaching webinars twice each week, I am in the trenches with you, tearing down these walls and helping you pave the way to a life you love. Our Summer 12 Weeks to Transformation kicks off on Sunday July 7th and registration opens next week. Make sure you’re on the wait list for free coaching between now and then.
I believe in coaching. I believe in coaches. I believe that we grow faster and live better lives when we open ourselves up to the influence and insight of a coach. Today, I thought I’d share with you a little bit of how I coach – my style.
For me, it’s not about telling you what to do because, quite frankly, I believe there are MANY ways to create change. It’s not the process that matters most. It’s the obstacles in your way. What I do is help my clients identify and remove their barriers to change. Otherwise, NO approach will work. Have you ever experienced that? You’ve tried EVERYTHING but you’re still making excuses?
That’s because those stories – those excuses – THAT’S the real work. We can’t expect to leave those untouched and miraculously overcome them! That’s our work.
In this short coaching video, I’m tackling this email I got from a prospective client. Can you relate to any of these feelings? Here’s a little piece of the email…
And here’s my short response to it. This is aligned with the work we do inside the 12 Weeks to Transformation.
Watch This Short Coaching Video (It Just Might Help You Help Yourself)
A few of my fave snippets from this video include:
Eating doesn’t lead to more eating. Your thoughts do!
You will learn far more from action than you will from thinking about action!
You don’t need to know the perfect tool. Be consistent with an imperfect tool.
If you want to learn more about the 12 Weeks to Transformation and what it looks like to work with me, click the button below for details, client testimonials and to hop on the wait list for our next session.
I’m obsessed with this spicy coleslaw! I have it as a side dish with burgers or steak and it’s amazing as the base for fish tacos (I usually choose to go without tortillas).
Spicy Coleslaw
For the slaw:
1 head of green cabbage, finely chopped or sliced with a mandolin
1 head of red cabbage, finely chopped or sliced with a mandolin
1 jalapeno, chopped (omit if you want it less spicy)
3 large scallions (green onions) finely chopped
For the dressing:
1/2 cup Primal Kitchen Chipotle Lime Mayo*
1/2 cup Primal Kitchen Turmeric Lemon salad dressing*
1.5 tbsp hot sauce of your choice (omit if you want it less spicy)
1/3 cup chopped fresh cilantro
Juice of one lime
In a large bowl, combine the cabbage, green onion and jalapeno. In a separate bowl, mix the dressing ingredients and pour over salad. Mix well. For best results, let the coleslaw sit for a few hours before serving to allow flavors to develop. You can add salt to taste, but since the mayo and dressing have seasoning, I didn’t feel that any salt was needed.
The first night I made this I added steak. The second night, I added white fish, like deconstructed tacos. This is absolutely going to be a new summer staple for me! I’m excited for leftovers!
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If you want to hit any goal in your life, you have to know how to recover faster from setbacks & frustrations.
The other day, I had a big setback and I was emotional about it. I cried. I got mad. I spent hours focused on how I didn’t understand another person’s behavior or thought process.
Then, I had a bit of an “aha” moment. I came to the realization of a powerful perspective shift that I now think of as my “drama shut off” valve and I’m sharing it with you on today’s episode!
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Learn more about the 12 Weeks to Transformation & get on the wait list! Registration opens up for our next 12 Weeks to Transformation in just a few weeks and between now and then, I’ll be sharing FREE weekly coaching with everyone on the wait list to help you determine if my style is a good fit for you and if the 12 WT will help you crush your goals so make sure you’re on that wait list!
What’s the deal with positive affirmations? Do they even work? And is journaling REALLY effective in helping you make better choices? How do I change my relationship with food? We’re diving into these questions and more in today’s episode of the podcast! Don’t miss it!
Questions Addressed on Today’s Episode
How to break patterns from childhood
How is journaling useful and what is it used for?
Can you share more info around affirmations and journaling?
Do you have a must read book list?
What is your driving force?
I’d love for you to talk about how to manage stress without overeating or drinking too much
