Being goal oriented might not be the most effective way to achieve your goals. In fact, I don’t think it is! In today’s episode, we’re talking about the difference between goal oriented and growth oriented and how the latter is likely a far more powerful, lasting approach to creating change.
Being growth oriented doesn’t mean you don’t care about your goals and it certainly doesn’t mean you won’t reach them. It means that you’ll enjoy the journey more and you’ll optimize who you are instead of merely trying to manipulate what you choose.
“Education is not the learning of facts but training the mind to think.” ~ Einstein
The other day, one of my 12 Weeks to Transformation clients shared the story of her personal transformation in the form a powerful inspiration: a poem. There is so much about this that encourages and inspires me so I was thrilled when she told me I could share it!
84 days to make myself proud
84 days to say it out loud
That I am not limited, oh no, not me
I get to choose who I want to be
84 days to re-write my story
84 days to shine in my glory
My brain believes what I tell it to
I tell it be happy and powerful too
84 days for me to let go
84 ways to say, “Drama?” Just..NO
Emotional waste just isn’t my style
I’m staying in reality, not getting riled
84 days of daily fresh starts
84 days of doing my part
Daily I’ll journal and set my small goals
And soon I realise that I’m on a roll!
84 days of choosing to be grateful
84 days of being optimistic and hopeful
Focusing my mind on beauty and grace
Beginning to see possibilities all over the place
84 days of “What do I WANT”?
84 days of questions and thoughts
I answered the questions and my heart is reeling
I just discovered “The Goal Is The Feeling”.
84 days and yes, I did drift
84 thoughts and emotions to sift
I got sucked in to my own futile nonsense
I needed EB, her words and good sense
Now it’s 24 days and I’ll finish well
24 days with a mindset that’s swell
I’ve set new goals and they’re big and they’re good
They’ll take some effort as worthwhile goals should
24 days and I am undaunted
24 days to get where I wanted
I don’t need a formula or scalpel precision
I just keep on making One Good Decision
84 days of creative solutions
84 days of generating motivations
I’m making goals with energy and passion
I’m even manufacturing enthusiasm!
84 days of affirmations
84 days of identity creation
Now I am prepared to go from strength to strength
I’m standing tall now, I AM as I THINK…
~ Shannon L
If this doesn’t encourage you to create your own personal transformation, I’m not sure what will! I could read this over and over!
Here are a few of my favorite lines:
“That I am not limited, oh no, not me
I get to choose who I want to be”
“My brain believes what I tell it to
I tell it be happy and powerful too”
“I answered the questions and my heart is reeling
I just discovered “The Goal Is The Feeling”.”
“I don’t need a formula or scalpel precision
I just keep on making One Good Decision”
What about you? What are your favorites! Leave a comment!
Calling all change makers! I’m sure we can all agree that the days fly by and life would be so much better if we could just end the struggle, reach our goals and maintain them with ease and joy.
Whether you want to lose weight, have an improved relationship with food, pay down your debt, start a business or anything in between, you can’t continue to go about it the way you always have before.
To speak plainly: I help people become joyful, relentless change makers in their own lives.
We aren’t focused on behavior change, we’re focused on mindset change, because for you and for everyone else, it’s your thoughts that drive your choices.
One of the primary reasons people continue to struggle and change continues to feel elusive or, at best, inconsistent, is because they are focused on changing their behaviors while failing to change the way they think.
I’m ready to help you take an easier, more effective path to creating the change you crave.
Today, I thought I’d let you hear from a few of my 12 Weeks to Transformation clients because they are really the best people to talk about the process and what it helped them do in their lives.
Let’s start here. This client came to me because she wanted to lose weight. Her marriage was falling apart and no matter how badly she wanted to lose weight, she wasn’t keeping the promises she made to herself.
Each day, she’d say, “I won’t drink wine tonight!”. Then, she’d drink wine, get frustrated with herself and pledge to do better tomorrow. Not only did she completely take control of her wine habit, she became a change maker in every aspect of her life.
Listen to her describe the changes she made in this short clip.
After you listened to her story, I want to share this next experience. It pretty much speaks for itself!
I know I posted this in the 12WT FB group, but I just have to reiterate, the only reason I joined the group was to lose weight but what I’ve gained is so much more. Your coaching is helping me change my life. I didn’t know I had it in me. I was so close (SO CLOSE) to throwing in the towel and just accepting that I am the depressed fat woman who prefers staying home – it’s just who I am. I am so grateful my doctor recommended your podcast.
And this one, too!
Hi EB,
I hope your week has started out well. I wanted to do a little check in, and reach out regarding my progress and how the 12WT is going.
The last 3 weeks have been weeks of incredible growth and momentum building for me. There are some amazing things that have happened recently, some of which have brought different levels of stress, activity, emotions. I’ve gotten engaged, celebrated a birthday, and got promoted at work. Overall it’s been just incredible and leaving me feeling really blessed and all around so fortunate.
From the time that you sent me the voice note a few weeks ago regarding switching my mindset about stress, it’s been an incredible uphill trajectory as I made the shift in mindset. I continually ask “how can I invest in myself with the next choice that I make?” “what will future me thank current me for?“.
Not only are my clothes fitting better, but there is so much less mental energy going towards food and food decisions. I’m learning how to indulge and still feel really great the choice, and indulge in a way that keeps me working on my goals. With all of the wonderful things happening that’s been a lot of celebrating, and I thoroughly believe in celebrating. But one of the biggest things for me was that I practiced making choices that made me proud. I had a glass of red wine (but not 2 because then I don’t feel good the next day), I drank some champagne, but only had 1/2 a slice of cake. I focused on being with family and soaking up the moments of feeling loved, supported, and celebrated. Focusing on the feeling meant that I didn’t feel like I needed the second helping of food to make it more “special”. The love and support from those close to me is what mattered. I didn’t fret and worry and go over and over the decisions, I just made the decision that I knew would make me feel great (because not indulging a little for these things isn’t fun, but finding that sweet spot of indulging is so great).
It doesn’t mean every decision is perfect, there are definitely some where I didn’t feel quite right about the decision, but I learned and then moved on. I’ve started “practicing” in my mind what I want to feel like and what I desire. I’m going on vacation Saturday – Wednesday, and instead of worrying or fretting or going through every single possibility for what could happen with food choices, I’m rehearsing the best version of me for that story in my head. While writing through my story this week, I also took some time to write out what my best self looks like on vacation. I’m relistening to the Rookies challenge about weekends and how I need to practice my best story while on vacation. I’m rehearsing it on occasion in my mind.
Overall, I know that motivation and momentum is something that I can create every day. One of the big things that keeps me moving is writing down my wins and reaching out to you to let you know that your program is amazing and it’s really helping me to continue to reach towards my highest potential. So thank you for not only reading this email, but for the continuous encouragement and all that you do for your clients.
Are your limiting beliefs holding your back? Here’s the reality: your life is a reflection of your beliefs and I think it’s time to upgrade!
I am 100% convinced that the primary reason people are inconsistent and continue to struggle with the same change for years is that they are focused on changing their choices while neglecting to change their beliefs. For example, if you fundamentally believe and continue to make a case for the fact that you’re an emotional eater, your choices will align with your belief.
Here’s the reality about all beliefs, including limiting beliefs:
“Your body is a barometer of your belief system.” ~ Pam Grout
Your life reflects your belief system. Your limiting beliefs will limit your choices and your ability to grow!
It’s time to edit your beliefs and upgrade your identity! In today’s episode we’re diving into the impact that our belief system has on our choices, identifying the beliefs that hold you back and talking about how we can fundamentally change what you believe about yourself and your life.
Whether you think you’re a drama queen or you’re sure you’re not, you MUST listen to today’s podcast! Drama is draining and every single one of us has room for improvment in our creation of and response to drama.
Drama takes the form of assumptions, gossip, worry, rumination over the past and so much more. In case you’re still convinced that you’re not a drama queen, let’s take a minute to get on the same page.
Clarifying for the Drama Queen:
Cy Wakeman defines drama as emotional waste and describes drama as mentally wasteful thought processes and unproductive behaviors that keep you from your potential. Drama includes:
Lack of ownership, accountability or committment
Blaming circumstances or other people for your lack of results
Arguing with circumstances that are non-negotiable
Resistance to change
Spreading gossip
Projecting (and believing) made up stories instead of focusing on facts
Defensiveness to feedback
Dealing with hurt feelings
Questions for the Drama Queen:
Is this mine or someone else’s?
Am I doing something productive about it?
Is this my business or someone else’s business?
Am I trying to control someone else’s thoughts or behaviors?
What actually happened without my story?
What do I know for sure?
What’s my part in this?
What are my ideas for resolving the issue?
Am I grounded in reality?
What am I doing today to resolve this?
Other powerful ideas from “No Ego” and today’s episode:
“Venting is your ego’s way of avoiding self-reflection.”
“Your ego is brilliant at finding insult where none is intended.”
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