Apr 13, 2019 | Blog
This morning I needed to bounce back. I was in a funk. Specifically, my feelings were hurt and I was continuing to replay the situation over and over in my thoughts.
It felt awful and I don’t want to feel awful.
We can stay in the funk. We can fuel the situation with our thoughts & words or we can take ourselves right out of it. While it’s totally fine to choose to stay there, it’s important to acknowledge that it is a choice and it’s not the only choice available to you.
In fact, that’s always my first step.
Acknowledge that you are your own mood maker.
Your feelings follow your thoughts. While thoughts do arise spontaneously, you decide whether or not you continue to fuel them with your attention.
As I sat with my journal this morning, I considered how the best version of me would go through this day.
Joyfully. Gratefully. Happily. Making choices that move me towards my goals.
I don’t want to stay in the funk therefore I must make moves to pull me out of it.
Revisit your power.
Owning that I have the power to make my own mood, here’s what I wrote in my journal this morning:
I can create the life I want. I can create the home I want. The relationships I want. The wealth I want. The peace I want. The health I want. The physique I want. The mood I want.
In the 30 seconds it took me to write that in my journal, my mood started to shift. In this day, through my thoughts and actions, I can create a positive, empowered day or I can create a sad, crappy, frustrated day.
You have the same choice.
So what, now what?
I ask myself that simple question on a regular basis: so what, now what?
So now that I am starting to feel a little better, what will I do about it? What will I do now and next to put myself in a great mood and take steps towards creating the life I want?
Here’s what I did this morning:
- Ten slow, deep breaths
- Write 3 things that are great about my life and/or my potential
- Listen to “Rise Up” by Andra Day
- Identify two things I can & will do today to create the life of my dreams
- Read my affirmations
Every time I need to bounce back, it looks a little different, so today’s strategy might not work for you but I’ve done a bunch of episodes & blogs on other strategies so if this is something you want to get better at, check them out!
Resources on How to Bounce Back
Minisode: How to Bounce Back
Episode 294: Bounce Back Strategy
Episode 583: A Tool When You’re In A Funk
Blog: You’re Your Own Mood Maker
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Apr 12, 2019 | Blog
Yesterday I got an email from a client that said, “I’m so good at helping others but I just can’t seem to help myself!”
She explained that she’s a teacher and is great at helping her students change their perspectives and and make progress towards goals. Her email concluded with a question:
Why can’t I help myself?
It’s the wrong question.
“Why can’t I help myself” is rooted in the problem. You’re fueling the problem with that inquiry.
I suggested a different question:
How will I help myself today? What am I able and willing to do today to help myself move in the direction of my goals?
Those questions aren’t rooted in the problem, but rather in immediate action related to the solution.
Anytime you’re struggling, I want you to ask yourself if you’re focused on the problem or on the solution.
I want you to ask yourself if you’re creating the solution or just thinking about it.
Are you taking action?
Are you focused on the solution in general or are you focused on today’s version of the solution?
When we want to create change or use the skills we’ve honed for helping others to help ourselves, there are a few boxes we want to check:
- Focus on the solution, not the problem
- Focus on action, not thought
- Focus on today, not yesterday or tomorrow
The reality for this client is that she can help herself. Maybe she hasn’t chosen to, but she certainly can.
So can you.
What advice do you give to others than you can give and take (for yourself) today?
Stop talking yourself into the problem.
Stop talking yourself out of the solution.
Participate in the creation of the solution today!
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Mar 31, 2019 | Podcast
You cannot and will not make sustainable change without awareness. There is no denying that the most critical cornerstone of change is increased awareness.
In today’s episode we’re talking about what awareness actually means, how we can increase it and what behaviors and patterns reduce it.
No matter what change you want to create in your life, this is the most critical pattern to establish!
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If you want to watch all the video replays of our 4-part Change Maker workshop, you can do so here:
Resources:
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If you’re looking to get your hands on the Identity Journal I mentioned in today’s episode, watch the video above to learn more about the 12 Weeks to Transformation. The Identity Journal is a tool that is part of a greater system for change within the 12 WT.
To learn more about journaling in general, listen to
episode 559 of the Primal Potential podcast!
Mar 30, 2019 | Podcast
In today’s listener Q&A episode, we’re diving into popular diets like keto & OMAD (one meal a day) as well as questions about eating well on a budget, managing times of stress and much more!
If you have a question, challenge or topic suggestion, send it to us here.
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Questions Addressed in Today’s Episode:
- What are your thoughts on OMAD (one meal a day)?
- I get on these streaks of great self-care and then something happens in my life – chaos or crisis – how can I train myself to embrace this lifestyle even when things are hard?
- Is it wrong to feel like you need outside help to change?
- One of the excuses I always give myself is that I can’t afford to eat healthy. The thing is, it feels true, not like an excuse. Do you have any tips?
- What are your top 2-3 perspective shifts or mindset changes that have improved your life?
- You get up very early. What time do you go to bed and how much sleep do you try to get?
- Does the 12 WT center around weight loss or can it apply to any goal in life?
- How do you feel about the keto diet?
- I’m good at abstinence but as soon as I have one treat, I go off the rails. How can I get to the point where I can have one treat without blowing it?
- When is your cookbook coming out?
- How to I get back on track after a binge streak?
Resources:
Register for the 12 Weeks to Transformation
Change Maker Series:
Part 1 Awareness: https://primalpotential.com/awareness/
Part 2 Alignment: https://primalpotential.com/mindset-for-success/
Part 3 Advancement: https://primalpotential.com/change-maker-advancement/
Part 4 Adjustment: https://primalpotential.com/adjust-your-goals/
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The blue blocker glasses Sarah and I were talking about! Klassy glasses!
Episodes on ketogenic diets
Episode 033: Is A Ketogenic Diet Right for You?
Episode 389: Primal vs Keto
Episode 388: Keto Reset Diet with Mark Sisson
Other episodes mentioned in today’s show
Episode 559: Identity Journaling
Episode 571: Limiting Beliefs
Episode 116: 5 Meals Under $1.99
Episode 066: Eating Healthy on a Budget
4-Part Change Maker Workshop
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Mar 18, 2019 | Podcast
Being goal oriented might not be the most effective way to achieve your goals. In fact, I don’t think it is! In today’s episode, we’re talking about the difference between goal oriented and growth oriented and how the latter is likely a far more powerful, lasting approach to creating change.
Being growth oriented doesn’t mean you don’t care about your goals and it certainly doesn’t mean you won’t reach them. It means that you’ll enjoy the journey more and you’ll optimize who you are instead of merely trying to manipulate what you choose.
“Education is not the learning of facts but training the mind to think.” ~ Einstein
Learn More About Your 12 Weeks To Transformation
Resources:
Learn more about the 12 Weeks to Transformation!
Join me Wednesday March 20th at 8pm ET to learn more about the 12 Weeks to Transformation and find out if it’s the right move for you! Register here.
Episode 559: The Most Powerful Way to Journal
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